Here's a video I made of how DD and I NIP. I'm a G cup so maybe it'll help.
I'm not shy in the slightest. I don't particularly care if my flabby belly shows either. I don't have 'proper nursing attire'. I mostly wear t-shirts and I just pull them up. Layered shirts bug the heck out of me so I don't wear them. If I've ever been given a dirty look I totally missed it. No one seems to care. I nurse *everywhere*. I still nurse my 26 month old anywhere/everywhere she wants to be nursed even around my huge pregnant belly. (Although I do prefer having drape necked shirts/dresses on these days because pulling up a maternity shirt is overwhelming.)
My advice may not be appropriate for you. That's ok. You are just fine how you are and I am the right kind of me.
I wear little shelf bras (I'm not big chested, 30DD) and mostly just plain t-shirts. I lift them both up to nurse. If she pops off (and she does), I lean forward a bit, so my nipple is hidden behind her head until she latches back on. If she does it frequently, I take it as a hint that she'd not 100% interested in nursing, and we stop and try again later.
Student mama to Lyra June ( 10.24.09) and Olive Isis (12.12.11)
I think more people are BF'ing that may have chosen not to before? And having a cover makes them feel more comfortable NIP?
Oh also if I'm wearing a bathing suit I have to pull the top down to nurse (I usually pull my shirt up) so then I will cover the top of my breast with a towel or something. Actually I hate wearing a bathing suit, I always feel so on display (way more than when I'm nursing, ironically!), I wish I could just wear a towel the whole time I'm swimming lol
As she got older, I was a lot more confident. DD didn't enjoy the cover as much and almost never fell asleep when something interesting was going on. So we kind of phased it out - I think we weren't really using it by 7 or 8 months.
Nic, loving mama to 5 with a SURPRISE 6th on the way.
I've never had to nurse in "close quarters" like on an airplane or at a sporting event as a pp mentioned so I'm not certain how I'd feel in that situation.
Most moms here do cover up. But I do notice the occasional person not doing so.
Mama to three
I do wear nursingwear quite a lot though, because while I quite like my breasts and don't mind showing them off, I'm less confident in that stomach flab! Plus they're warmer
However, I think in certain situations, like an airplane, I may nurse while DS in in the wrap or use a cover, just because that's REAL close-up!
But I agree with PPs, that nursing covers draw attention to the fact that you're nursing, but yeah they do cover-up nicely so if that's the point then they do the job. Anyway I live in Germany and luckily people are pretty indifferent to NIP here. I think the way people get offended or ask a woman not to NIP is quite an American phenomenon.
Mama since 2010
Multicultural living in Europe
Amy, wife to Paul 5/20/01, SAHM to Daniel 5/23/07, Claire 7/15/09, and Elaine 9/4/12
Nope, never. Not under any circumstance. I also won't leave the room to nurse.
When my son was very new still (the first month or 2) I was a little hesitant or shy about being in public and I think I remembering covering him and myself sometimes. Then I just got more and more used to it and comfortable. I almost started viewing it as my mission to nurse as publicly as possible, lol.
Now I barely even think about it. We live in a college town with a lot of guys in their 20s.. (I'm in my 20s as well) and there has been the occasional time I have looked down and realized that baby has flashed my breasts and that guys are looking and pointing it out to their friends, lol. But it really doesn't even bother me anymore.
And honestly I can't imagine the extra logistics of juggling a cover. He's 1 yr old now and he is enough to juggle!
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