The fact is i am getting tired of it, especially at night. Some nights she will literally nurse ALL NIGHT LONG, which drives me insane. I feel selfish for wanting to wean her because I know it will be a painful process for her. Other friends' babies have weaned piece of cake - I know DD will be different.
DH is also pressuring me to wean.
I want to do what's best for Ellerie, but at what point do I honor what I feel is best for me? I am just really feeling taxed out by her lately. She has always been spirited and she is such a joy as a toddler, but she is SO much - she requires my attention all the time, and by night I just want to shut down...do you know what I mean?
I need advice. In many ways I think nursing her longer will actually help keep her calm and happy because she is getting what she needs, but again, it goes back to me also getting what I need. I feel selfish.
As for day weaning, nursing is a relationship and it has to work on both sides for it to work. Personally I would work on night weaning and then see how you and she are doing - getting enough sleep might make you feel recharged and able to nurse during the day. Also take a look at www.kellymom.com 's section on weaning (under breastfeeding) for helpful info and advice.
Good luck, mama!
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At my last LLL meeting one mom talked about the "milkies light". She told her DS that he couldn't nurse until the "milkies light" came on. She set her night light to a timer and it wouldn't go off until 2:00 am. When her DS woke up to nurse she would say "Is the light on yet?" Her DS learned to wait until the light went on until he could nurse. Eventually she set the timer later and later and he was sleeping until 5:00 am within a few months.
I plan on trying this in a few mos. DS is getting molars now and I feel guilty denying him nursing.
At 2 1/2 I nightweaned her.......and it made such a HUGE difference in MY feeling so overwhelmed with her constant nursing. I would have liked to completely wean her......but instead I aimed for her bday and started slowly cutting out the extra feedings until by her birthday, she was down to 3 five minute nursings. (i was also limiting the time of each feeding) When it came time to wean......it went pretty smoothly. Though I miss it sometimes and so does she........our relationship is still loving and close and I love that too! And I feel not so overwhelmed by nursing and being up all night.
I think if you do whats right by you......you are also doing right by her. Try the nightweaning first and see how that goes. SOmetimes just having that time makes a big difference.
You should feel really great about nursing for sooo long, btw! I thought Id go a year..........and it turned into 3! ANd I had tinges of guilt ending it there, though believe me......I WAS SO READY!!!
I like the ideas suggested.
Thank you again. :-)
I am not against the family bed, and me and DP dearly loved having DS sleep with us, just it drives me crazy now having someone attached all night. Anyway, it might help.
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