Ds is 9 and a 1/2 months- and I am feeling really unahppy with how I am dealing with nurdsing him lately. It all started when he got his first 2 teeth ( he still only has 2 tho I think more are on the way)
We had some episodes of biting. I wrote about those on here.
The biting has stopped! So this is not a post about how to deal with biting.
But the problem is that ever since then, I am kind of nervous about nursing! I just can't relax and go with it like I did when he was really little- I tense up and when he is changing mouth postions I pop off a lot and think he is going to bit even tho he hasn't in a long time! So it sucks- for him relaly. I try to relax and nurse him as much and as long as I can.
It is always better at night nursings when we are both tires- he is more gentle and I am sleepy so more relaxed. But I just wish I could be calmer and more open with my general nursing- but I find myself reluctant to nurse him sometimes, and not enjoying it sometimes- and popping him off on the early side- and kind of getting through it more than relaxing into it.
I want to reclaim the relaxed flowing open nursing that I used to offer him- bu I jus keep tensing up! Any siggestions? this has been going on for like a month and I feel really bad for my ds about it- I mean, he is fine- he is great- but I wish could be mellower and easier about it.
How long has it been since he bit you? If it's just a few days then maybe you need a little more time to adjust and regain your trust.
Otherwise I would recommend the old "just breathe", meaning when you notice yourself getting tense during nursing, take a few conscious, deep breaths and feel yourself there in the moment and focus on your baby and try to feel the connection and grounding of BFing in that moment, and maybe try to breathe the fear and tension out of your body.
Rescue Remedy also came to mind, a few drops on your tongue (they also have bonbons, gum, cream and lip salve) as you nurse.
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