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#1 of 10 Old 02-17-2012, 03:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I work at a university and am an adviser for a freshman club. We are having a few evening and weekend events coming up this semester that I'll bring DS (6 mo) to. I usually have no problem nursing in public, but for some reason I'm stressed out about nursing in front of my students. And to make it more stressful, lately DS is a pop-on-and-off nurser, especially when we are out in new, busy places.

 

He's getting better about nursing in the mei tie, and we also might have some opportunity to find a quiet place and sit down by ourselves, but it's still hard for me.

 

Anyone else BTDT ? Also, any cheerleading would be greatly appreciated!


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Yes-- in a similar University/academic medical center situation.  I am quite a modest person by nature, and always managed to nurse in a fairly discreet way, tho' it does get increasingly challenging as they grow in curiosity and size.  I would keep a good size lightweight blanket on hand, nursed on demand without drawing attention.  During evening or weekend extra work-related obligations, my #1 goal was to nurture my little one and, if possible, fulfill my work-related obligation.  I found that most people enjoyed having a baby around at extra curricular events. That said,  I rarely had my children with me during typical working hours, simply because I wanted to be respectful of work/home boundaries and my responsibilities as an employee.  I regularly pumped at work, and while I never made a big deal about it, when it did come up, I was supported by my co-workers.

 

My husband is a faculty member and once had a female colleague nurse during a student's master's defense.  My husband is as pro-nursing and mother/child as you can get, and felt this was highly inappropriate as this person was not able to give the student her undivided attention during this important event.  I agree!  If she was not able to make other arrangements during this time limited engagement, she should not have been a part of the committee.  BTW-- the student did not seem to mind and passed with flying colors, but still-- not appropriate in my book.

 

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Thanks for the response. Similarly, I don't bring DS to work with me (I pump) but he'll have to come at these times. It's good to hear that other mamas have done the same. Usually I am not a fan of using a cover, but I might just have one in case I feel like I need it. 

 

It's funny you bring up the thesis example... DH is going to defend his thesis next month and I'm trying to find a sitter. DH wants me to bring him, but I feel like I won't be able to give my full attention and I don't want the baby to make noise. Also, he's damn cute and I don't want people oohing and ahhing over a baby instead of paying attention to DH. :) 


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Good luck with the defense.  I would say find a caregiver (maybe one of your students) to come along and play/stroll with your little guy while the meeting is in progress, and then text them to join you (to celebrate!) as soon as you are wrapped up.  I hate to be a party pooper for your DH, but I don't think it is appropriate for your little one to be in the room at that time... I would be surprised if 100% the committee members would be 100% on board with having a baby there, even if they were otherwise family friendly.  Just before and immediately after, YES-- but not during.  You guys have worked hard to get to this big day and you don't want to run the risk of having things not go as totally well as possible.

 

Best to you and your guys!

 

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Just asked my DH what he thinks (like I said, a very pro-family, pro-baby professor) and he said no way, shouldn't even ask to have the baby there.  He said by all means bring the little one right after to celebrate, but not during.

 

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Lol, I'll show this to DH to help prove my point, thanks! 


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I've nursed in class as a grad student (less than 1 month old).  I've nursed through department meetings; when you schedule it for 10:30am and I clearly only have a childcare schedule for the afternoons, that is what you get if you want me to attend.  I only did that until about 6 months though when it became untenable; if I could nurse until he fell asleep, it always seemed more reasonable.

 

I've never nursed in a class that I've taught though and am considering if I'm willing to do it when this one arrives at the end of the semester.  It makes me nervous.  It is one thing to nurse when you are just supposed to be taking in information and adding on occasion; I feel like it is another when I'm in charge of keeping things going.  I just don't know if I could keep track of everything.  Plus, when I was taking my last one to classes and meetings, about every 3rd event I'd have to step out for 10 minutes.  If I'm in charge, I'll feel torn and anxious.  But that may just be me.

 

Absolutely NO on the baby in the thesis defense.  Maybe for a professor who has a tiny one that will nurse down to sleep and is otherwise taking a term off but attending for the defense.  But certainly not for guests.  Too much potential for distraction on all sides. 


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cat13~  I was cleaning things out over the weekend and came across my nursing necklaces.  I had totally forgotten about them!  My youngest daughter was a very curious toddler nursling.  I found the necklaces would give her something to play with and it cut down on the pop ups when we were in public.  I purchased several on Etsy (just look up nursing necklaces), but they would also be easy enough to make.  I'm glad I re-discovered them-- might actually wear them now and again!

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That's a good idea, I'll be sure to wear my nursing necklace tonight at the meeting. Thanks. :)


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I also work in a university setting, and I had a regular Thursday "lunch date" with my DD, which included nursing, until she was 2.5 years old. Her sitter would bring her to my office, I'd nurse her, and then we all had lunch together. It was really sweet, and I do sometimes miss it!

 

Since I have my own office with a door that I can close, it was really no big deal to nurse there. My co-workers knew what we were doing, and if they thought it was weird, they kept that to themselves.

 

The only somewhat embarrassing moment I can remember is once sitting & nurse DD who was almost 2 at the time, and someone knocked on the door. It was the midst of a very busy festival that I was helping to run, and without thinking I said "come in", and one of our male student interns opened the door and asked me a question. DD immediately pulled off my breast and turned around to see who was there, so I was completely exposed! I covered up as fast as I could, but it was an awkward moment, to say the least! blush.gif

 

 


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I also work in a university setting, and I had a regular Thursday "lunch date" with my DD, which included nursing, until she was 2.5 years old. Her sitter would bring her to my office, I'd nurse her, and then we all had lunch together. It was really sweet, and I do sometimes miss it!

 

Since I have my own office with a door that I can close, it was really no big deal to nurse there. My co-workers knew what we were doing, and if they thought it was weird, they kept that to themselves.

 

The only somewhat embarrassing moment I can remember is once sitting & nurse DD who was almost 2 at the time, and someone knocked on the door. It was the midst of a very busy festival that I was helping to run, and without thinking I said "come in", and one of our male student interns opened the door and asked me a question. DD immediately pulled off my breast and turned around to see who was there, so I was completely exposed! I covered up as fast as I could, but it was an awkward moment, to say the least! blush.gif

 

 

 

LOL!  DS pops off all the time these days, usually when someone walks up to us and talks. I even had to have a rule with DH that he can't talk or get too close while we are nursing.
 

 


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