Ok at 9wks old I was lucky to get 45mins of down time from having a child attached to my boob. She nursed every hour and a half but it lasted 30-40mins thus not much time in between. At night? Forget it - I was couch bound from 6-10pm when she'd finally conk out for 2 hours only to start all over. She was 99% height and weight until she was about 7 mos, then she leveled off. Doubled her birth weight by just over 2 mos, tripled before a year, but is gaining much slower these days. DH adjusted and knew that during night cluster feeds he needed to help me out and bring food, water, magazines, feed the animals, etc. At night he would refill my water bottle every couple hours. He wanted to be part of the bonding but he understood that on demand feeding was best for her so he helped in whatever way he could. His family was pushier about wanting him to be able to feed her from a bottle and I set them straight a few times. When I went back to work part time she was 6mos old and only needed one bottle during my 5 hours away so that was easy enough to pump for my FIL to give her, and then at 9mos she stopped asking so I just stopped pumping and nursed right before leaving and right when I got home. She woke up more frequently at night for a few weeks to make up for it but it worked out fime for us. I still feed her on demand and she will be 2 in Nov. The benefit now is that I can ask her to wait for me to finish what I'm doing or wait til we get home from grocery shopping and she understands.
My pedi (no longer go there) suggested once that I night wean DD and let her cry it out at like 4mos bc her weight gain was more than sufficient. I must have looked at her like she had ten heads. Sure people assume my LO is 3 (combination of size and language), but I could care less if they say it in a rude way. It's my kid, she's perfectly healthy and it's none of their business how big she is. (For the record she's 28lbs and 34" - not what I'd consider huge but apparently some think she's a giant....). So keep doing what you're doing and listen to your baby!
The above is a lovely description of a normal nursing relationship. Rock on, Sassyfirechick!
My son, who at 9 weeks was still nursing for 14 minutes every 45 minutes, is now 21 months. He goes to daycare and is happy to go without nursing for 8 hours. On days he is home, however, he still nurses every 2 hours. He is the healthiest kid I know.