Hey there again. DS1 would nurse all day if I let him...he asks many, many times a day and throws a royal tantrum if I refuse. I think it was somewhere on here that I got the idea of saying yes every time he asks, but limiting the length of the session. DS1 will actually accept 5-seconds on each side. For him, I think there was some insecurity when DS2 took his territory and he just needed to know it was still there for him on demand, like before.
For food, I sometimes make various different snacks ahead of time the night before and grab at it during the day. The best things to eat for me don't need to be heated up since 1-1/2 minutes in the microwave is typically too long before someone starts crying. So cold cuts of meat, cut cheese, sliced veggies, chips & hummus/bean dips, pb&j, easy to eat fruit, nuts, etc.
Not a lot of help on DTD, except make your breasts off limits for awhile. Mine have been off limits for 2-1/2 years. When I'm nursing, I don't want any sexual touching of my breasts. DH doesn't have a problem with this though...he likes other areas better
But with DS2 being 5 months old, it's only been a handful of times. It takes awhile for me to want that kind of contact after having a baby.
Do you have anyone to help you during the day? Someone to take your older one for a walk or out of the house for a few minutes? What your doing would be very difficult without some support during the day... Can you hire a mother's helper? It's summer. Maybe there is a teenage girl that could come over and help some times?