I think I may have written about this months ago...
DD is almost 15 months old and ALWAYS wants/needs to fiddle with the other nipple when she is breastfeeding. She pulls, she pinches, sometimes with fingernails. I tell her, "Be gentle with mamma," and show her how to push or knead gently, but it doesn't work. I firmly move her hand sometimes; I gently move her hand sometimes; most of the time now I just try to surrender (breathe deeply...and wait for her to fall asleep or finish her milk!). I let it keep happening months ago, because I knew it was her instinct, and it worked for her purpose: her twiddling/fiddling with my other nipple got my milk to let down faster.
SO, this has been going on for a few (several?) months and has become harder and harder for me. DD cries when I pull her hand away and can't go to sleep if it is bedtime/naptime just then without pinching/pulling/twiddling. Basically, whatever nipple isn't being sucked on serves as her "lovey."
I do sometimes give her a little stuffed animal to hold, which keeps her satisfied for a bit...but also usually keeps her awake, because she wants to play with it and "talk" to it!
I have also tried a beaded necklace, which she will fiddle with for a few moments but always goes back to the boob. If I wear a turtle-neck shirt (so she can't get to boob #2
easily), that also gets her crying/screaming/ANGGGGGGRY!
Who else has this happened to? How did you get past it? Will she stop, eventually? If I'm diligent about removing her hand, will she eventually no longer scream out in protest?
I intend to BF her at least until she is two, and potentially until she weans herself, whatever age that is. Most of the time now, however, breastfeeding is not the joy it once was. I am tense either with pain or anticipation of pain. I know this affects my milk supply and quality. I need a solution, mammas...please?!