When someone offers you "more privacy"...
...do you feel criticized?
I have never yet, in 2+ years breastfeeding my first child and 3 months with this one, had anyone actually tell me not to BF in a place or that I was being disgusting or anything. I'm grateful for that!
But there have been a number of times when my baby is already nursing in some public place, where I have found a spot that is adequately comfortable, and then someone comes along and says, "If you want more privacy, we have a place for nursing mothers," and tells me where it is. Invariably, it is far enough away from where I am that I wouldn't have chosen to go there when the baby was already fussing because I know she would get so worked up that not only would I feel bad for her and have trouble getting her to latch because she's screaming so hard, but I would feel bad about her disturbing people.
My response has always been to smile and say, "Thanks, but we're doing fine here." On the surface it seems to work okay--the person goes away. But I always FEEL like they are judging me and really want me to get up and move to the "appropriate" place. Both of the times this has happened with my current baby, my 9-year-old has reacted like, "Sheesh, what's her problem?" and at least one woman nearby has made a BF-positive comment...so it seems I'm not the only one who sees this as my being Spoken To.
But my partner, who has not witnessed this, says it sounds like I'm being over-sensitive because these people are just offering me a more comfortable place IF I'd like to move or to use it in the future.
What do you think?
Mama to a boy EnviroKid
10 years old and a little girl EnviroBaby
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