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View Poll Results: Would you bf someone else's child?
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Old 01-05-2007, 07:20 PM
 
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yes, I would, have done it. But I wouldn't do it without the mom's permission. I wouldn't want someone else feeding my baby without my knowledge (I probably wouldn't care, just would like to know).

I also just gave away a whole bunch of pumped milk to a friend that needed it for her grandchild.
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I donated about a gallon of pumped milk to a mother who wasn't producing enough due to breast reduction surgery. I wish I could have donated more. I ended up throwing away 3 grocery bags full of 3-5 ounce bags of milk. What our trash person must have thought!
As for latching on another child, not without permission beforehand. Same for my child. If I couldn't have breast fed for some reason, I would have sought wet nursing just for reflux and health reasons.
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Yes, I would. Actually I have been cross-nursing my co-wife's DD and babies of two of my good friends, of course, with willing consent of the mothers concerned. In November last my co-wife was blessed with a son; she has already given sucks out of love to my DS and DD. This is not an uncommon practice in our family and we have been able to cross nurse naturally and frequently.
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Sustainer, you have put things in a beautiful perspective. Thanks.
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I too think breastfeeding is way to personal a bond between mommy and baby. If I ever came home to find some one else had bf'd my baby I think I would feel very betrayed by that person. I would not and could not bf someone elses baby for the same reasons. Way to personal..
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No, I have never. Yes, I would.

Like the pps said, in an emergency without hesitation, otherwise with everyone in agreement.

I love nursing my DD. BFing is way better for me than being pregnant. It is totally a bonding experience. Having said that, I think there is more to the mama/baby bond than sharing a body, birth, or even nursing.

So, I think it would really "benefit the cause" if more bf moms would nurse other's babies. I think it would really help to normalize breastfeeding in general, and take away one of the "pros" of bottle feeding (to wit, multiple people having the ability to feed the baby).

As it stands, if mama has trouble, she either gets thru it and the baby gets breastmilk, or she doesn't and the baby gets formula. I'm in favor of anything that gets babies human milk. Formula should be a last resort, not the automatic second (or first) choice.

Humans are social animals. We have always lived in groups. It is just as natural for one lactating mama to nurse a baby who isn't hers as it is for her to nurse her own. Humans have cross-nursed since forever.

If I left my baby with a friend who was lactating, and my trusted friend thought my babe needed the boob, I would not feel betrayed in the least. I would feel lucky that my friend was that cool, and grateful that DD had her needs met.

I certainly do not mean to offend anyone who's posted here. It's okay to differ. These are just my feelings on it.

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I have nursed my nephew and a friend's babe. We recently made the 11 hour drive to FL and my sis nursed my ds who HATES the car-nursed him right to sleep--although the whole time I was wishing it was me nursing him

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I tried to help my friend in latching problems, I have seen the polls and majority mothers have nursed other's babies.So this is very kind of them.
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I said no, I wouldn't want anyone else to nurse my child, I think its way to personal for me and I wouldn't ever feel comfortable nursing someone else's child, its just not my thing. More power to the women who can and do!
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I would nurse one of my friend's babies if I was babysitting and we ran out of milk, or if something happend to my friend and her baby needed to be fed. I would be more cautious about who I would let nurse my DS though. I would rather I be the only one who nurses him, but in certain situations I would let a trusted close friend nurse him.

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Yes I would and have. I have also happily had my baby nursed for two days by a friend when I was very sick and couldnt care for him.

With three of my babies I have used EBM from friends for the first two days before my milk came in. I have also given EBM to other midwife friends for their babies.
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would and have.

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Absolutely.

I would love to be in an culture where kids were fed by all the lactating mamas. I'd feed different babies, and mine could be nourished by other moms. I think it's best for babies to get as many different nutrients and antibodies as they can.

I certainly would have my limits to that... If there's a drug-addicted mama, or something I wouldn't go for that.
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I would if someone asked me to.
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I would, though I've never nursed my own babies yet--they're due in June 07.

However, I did offer my breast to a baby I was babysitting for when I was about 14. The mother pumped milk and insisted that nothing more than the prepared bottle was to be given. The poor babe would scream unconsolably when the bottle was empty. I tried telling the mother this and she suggested
I simply let the baby cry.

Sucking on the empty bottle didn't soothe the poor baby and she would root at my chest sobbing. I couldn't bear to leave her alone crying. So I opened my shirt and let her suck. Although I obviously had no milk the baby would get calm and eventually fall asleep. At the time I was too embarrassed to tell the mother what I had done.

I hadn't really thought much about this experience until I recently became pregnant. I do agree with PPs that sharing the experience is best when all parties involved are comfortable and in agreement. Though I still don't feel sorry about comforting that baby.
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Can't remember if I've replied to this thread...yes, I would and have BF another person's baby.

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I would only do it with their permission...

In your situation--if you ever rand out, call "whoever you're supposed to call in an emergency" and say, "There is no more milk, what do you want me to do?" When they hesitate, you could casually mention that you would be willing to breastfeed them, if they were comfortable with that...
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absolutly i would if everyone would be comfortable with it...i think i would be ok with someone else nursing ds as long as i knew them well, i have no sibblings but that would be an ideal situation...my ds is bottle fed ebm at night while i am away at work and he hates the bottle all nipples and we have tried them all...he would rather not eat that get it from the bottle i would love it if someone could do that for him and me...i do wonder if anyone has ever nursed someone elses child whos mom was having trouble latching and did this help the babe to latch to own mom? my cousin is having trouble and i thought that it might help
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Sure. With permission from it's parents/guardians of course. And I would hope that some kind lady would do the same for my children if the need arose. Even if it was donated in a cup or bottle, it would be a wonderful, non-selfish thing. Really beautiful, I think.
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If it was necessary I would do it. I would prefer to not have someone else nurse my child, but again if necessary (an emergency) then yes better than them being hungry. Thankfully I've been blessed in that even with pumping I was able to nurse my children full time... this thread really made me think! I talked to a friend of mine and we agreed in an emergency only would we be ok with each other nursing the other's child.

I really think that for me and my best friend it has a lot to do with us not growing up with sisters or a lot of women. I grew up in a house full of boys and my mother was basically an only child and my friend the same only brothers. I don't exactly know how to explain it, but I know we both act differently than say my sister in laws who have sisters.

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I have bf'ed my neice and nephew. My oldest DD bf from auntie (my SIL).. it makes strong bonds, I think.

My aunties (who are sisters, but not the most AP/NFL people) switched their babies off on each other. They were the same age (the babies)... I'm sure they didn't bf long though, prob. till 3 months or something.
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YEs!!!
as long as it was ok with the mother. As a daycare provider I have to tell you, anyone that feeds your baby regularly bonds with him/her even if using a bottle. As long as the person actually holds that baby anyway. They still look up at you with those trusting eyes. That's why I don't understand moms that'll let just about anybody give their baby a bottle.

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Thats a very good point! - Becuase when this topic usally comes up, thats what a lot of people say...they dont like the idea of their baby bonding with someone else...which at least acknowledges that BF is good for bonding - but its true, if someone else is going to be holding or interacting in any way with your child, they are going to be bonding with them.

Which sometimes I feel others contradict themsleves - because they will argue that you can still bond just as well by bottle feeding. But they will also probably let other people bottle feed their baby - but if you asked them if they would have breastfed, if they would have let someone else BF their baby..they wouldnt for the bonding reasons...??? (or just because they think its 'nasty'...??? lol)

I really think its all down to how strongly you believe in BF over the use of forumla. I really think if more people were open to this idea nd it was something regularly done in our society - not just babies in the NICU getting donated milk - then the use of formula would be almost non exsistant! It just wouldnt be needed!!!

I would have had somone else BF my baby if need be and I would deffinatly BF someone elses child! Not sure I would feel comfortable with a complete stranger BF my child, but as long as I knew them.

And I will even say that my 'need be' isnt an emergency need either. I would still BF somones child if they wanted a night out with thier DH/DP because they just needed that few hours of breaktime together. I see that as a need either, not just the baby is going to die unless BF by someone else need!

I picture a society where everyone is close...where we all feed eachothers children and live in an open safe place...its lovely!

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To me nursing is such a personal thing with my baby that I don't think I could. I chose No but I guess I could feel comfortable if I had a sister or something but I don't so I don't think I would feel close enough to someone elses child to do that. Not to mention Lacy would probably try to beat them up for stealing her boob.
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I would under serious circumstances, and would hope that other mamas would do the same for my babe (I'm thinking like katrina,major illness etc.)
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