Join Date: Jul 2002
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I started preparing my older DD for the arrival of the new baby as soon as I started looking pregnant. I got Dr. Sears' books, Baby on the Way, and What Baby Needs. We talked about what would happen when baby was born (as I wanted DD to be there for it) and all the changes in our lives after baby arrives. I repeatedly told her how babies have to nurse, and sometimes they nurse a lot, all day long, and that because the baby can't eat big-people food like she can, that baby would always need to nurse first. I reassured her that she'd be allowed to nurse, but if baby needs to nurse, she would have to wait her turn... but it wasn't an instant process, it took about seven months of preparation while I was pregnant for it to really sink in.
no, I don't nurse them both at the same time, unless they are both screaming and upset and I have no other option in the matter.
yes, older DD was great at relieving engorgement, but I really didn't have much problem with that like I did the first time. My body was much better at producing the right amount of milk. There were a few times I did ask her to nurse, and I even had her "help me pump" by nursing one side while I pumped with my Avent Isis on the other.
I always gently remind older DD "No biting" as she latches on, and if I feel teeth, I immediately unlatch her. But I've always done that, it's nothing new.