I am going to quote Dr. William Sears/Martha Sears RN
from the Baby Book because these words helped me when I was burned out on years of nursing.
"Life is a series of weanings for a child: weaning from your womb, weaning from your breast, from your bed, and from your home to school. (WHAT ABOUT HOMESCHOOLERS?
) The pace at which children should go from oneness to separateness should be respected in all of these weaning milestones. To hurry children through any of these relationships before their time increases the risk of what we call "diseases of premature weaning" : anger, aggression, habitual tantrumlike behavior, anxious attachment to caregivers, and less ability to form deeper and more intimate relationships. We have studied the long-term effects of thousands of children who had timely weanings and have observed that these children
*are more independent
*gravitate to PEOPLE more than things
*are easier to discipline
*experience less anger
Ideally, try to give your baby the best physical, emotional, and mental start- a gradual and timely weaning. In the normal process of oneness to separateness, it is not the mother who weans the baby, but the baby who weans from the mother. In our many years as baby watchers, studying the long-term effects of long-term breastfeeding, the most secure, independent and happy children we have seen are those who have not been weaned before their time."