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#1 of 4 Old 12-04-2004, 02:53 PM - Thread Starter
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My ds is 26 months old. I am not trying to wean him just set some limits in a very gentle way. I need advice and resources. Something he does that annoys me to no end is come up to me get under my shirt and pull me down to nurse. This can be anywhere and anytime. There are other things that he does as well. Besides that he still nurses A LOT! I figure after 26 months we could slow it down just a little bit.
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My dd has just started to accept "milk at home." We ask her to wait until we get home and she usually says okay. Well, I don't have any milk anymore since I'm 11 weeks pregnant but she still calls it milk. I've been offering snacks, drinks, distractions, etc. for quite a while. Luckily, when she asks for milk, people probably think she wants cow's milk. I really don't care what people think, it just makes it less awkward (sp?).

I'd suggest you try things that you would try if you were trying to wean him from some nursings, like offer him a drink, snack, distraction either when he asks or if you can predict when he asks. I'd also suggest telling him that you don't like what he's doing and that he needs to ask you in a way that you approve of. This may take a while, but you can practice at home and tell him that he needs to do it while you're out too.

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My ds is 28 months and I'm 6 months pregnant with almost no milk left...nursing HURTS!!!! I definitely have to set limits to keep my sanity. If we're home together he could easily nurse 2 or 3 times an hour....and loves to pinch and scratch the other breast while he's at it, no matter how much I discourage him.

The trick that has worked best for us is saying "OK, you can have snacks [our word for bf] for 10 (or 20) and then we're all done." Of course we have to do this on both sides, and now that he can count to 20 if I say "10" he'll counter-offer with 20. But I control how fast I count out loud, so I can make it a quick 20 if I'm really climbing the walls.

Distraction helps, but not always. I'm also trying to be firm and consistent about "snacks all done" if he bites, pinches, or scratches. I will give him a warning - "What happens if you bite?" and he'll say "snacks all done" so I know he understands, then if he does it again I end the nursing session.


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My ds is in that "I do it myself!" stage and wants to be the one to open my shirt and bra to nurse. I tell him no because I think that's just crossing a boundary - it's one of those little things I'm just not comfortable with, like he's kinda invading my personal space a bit too much with that, and I don't like feeling like a buffet LOL. I definitely think nursing is a two way street at this age and it is part of him learning manners in general. I hate the fact that at times, discipline is a necessary part of the nursing relationship but... *shrug* ya gotta do it.
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