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Originally Posted by aira
I don't have time to read every word in this thread, but I wanted to add my 2 cents to the pot...
Strangely, my pregnancy ideas about nursing were that I'd read every quality resourse on the planet, plan for any contingency, and of course, have no problems because I had prepared so well. I'd BF until DS decided to stop and he'd be perfect b/c of my milk and nurturing. Ahhh, the luxury of thinking you know stuff before you've been there!
Like stafl, My DS had latching problems after we were in a car accident in the 35 week of pg. His head was engaged and he sustained a jaw injury. I can't begin to describe what hell it is to see your newborn starving and not know why. So I pumped and cried all the time. It took 12 weeks to find a ped chiro who eventually healed his injuries, thank God. But even with the best LCs in the world, he absolutely REFUSED to have anything to do with BF. He has consistently screamed anytime I remotely suggest latching. My milk supply has dropped steadily since 6 mo. mostly b/c of my chronic pain from my injuries and I'm sure from PPD.
My point: I have truely and profoundly *grieved* that I couldn't nurse my son. Do not underestimate how powerful it is. I admit it's really hard for me when I read about people taking that bond so lightly, or sexualizing it, or whatever. But I do remember well the pregnancy fantasies of how things will be, and I hope that you never have BF go so painfully wrong that your biggest wish is for for nothing more than to nurse your child.
Good luck to you and baby!