Join Date: Jan 2003
Location: Upper Delaware River Valley, PA
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I am a veteran of tandem nursing that grit my teeth until my son was 4 1/4, not wanting to cause jealousy. I think that there must be a better way than gritting teeth. I try to remind myself that we are nursing couples, because there are two of us. Weaning should also be a joint venture - often with one of us leading.
I am now working on weaning my daughter, now 4 1/2 and even more attatched than my son. She nurses going to sleep, waking up, and at nap times. Some days I discourage naps just because my breasts are too sore. She empties them in a minute and then massages and twiddles to get more milk.
We slowly skipped night nursing by her sleeping sounder as she got older, and by my turning my back on her when she stirred - only nursing after complete wake ups. Now we are weaning mornings and I tell her my breasts are just too sore. It seems she needs to hold them to sleep - not thrilling but better than nursing.
I am thinking of drinking teas (sage?) to dry up or change the flavor...but then I decide to wait. If I am patient and clear on my needs and rights, things will change. But has anyone used teas for weaning?
Also, before ending weaning my son insisted that he "needed to get used to it". We settled on nursing every other night (he was already nursing for only "2 minutes"). Some nights every-other-night lasted for 2 or 3 nights, and finally a flu stretched it to 5 nights and the end (my choice).
I always thought my kids would wean themselves at 2. Ha!!
Julia (wife of Michel)