when I experienced the initial pain from bf, and when seeking help, kept hearing 'the latch must be bad' but did everything they said, and still cried through every feeding...I became very resentful and confused. I didnt have much support, except dh who would NOT let me stop, even if I wanted to. MIL was VERY probf, but she passed it off as this dim lit, beautiful experience that i WASNT having...
Everyone else said to just quit, I musnt 'be able' to.
I refused. my theory was that dd's mouth was too small, and she just couldnt latch comfortably...I would keep suffering till she grew bigger. (I find this VERY amusing now)
well, for some reason, I was reading a website (dr jack neuman I think) and I looked at pictures of latching, and it hit me like a lightbulb, and it got better. I wasnt latching right. my nipple had to face the top of her throat, and most of the underside of the areola be in her mouth. Now, I am not sure if thats EXACTLY what it said, but I started doing that, after almost a MONTH of clenched, stabbing, slicing pain, sobbing feedings, etc. It started to get better.
dd also was a very aggressive feeder, strong sucker. I had HUGE blood blisters my second day in the hospital....the nurses answer was to shift postions, oh great, so then I had huge blood blisters on THAT side of my nipple as well.
It was tramatic, and I look back to that first month, and all I think about was the pain, and it makes me upset that I didnt enjoy those first moments with my baby. but now she is only 3 months, and that feels like ages ago...
what worked for me was that you HAVE to have it in your head that you have NO choice. my dh kept saying 'i wish I could feed her if its too hard for you' very sarcastically, and it would hurt me and make me cry more, because he didnt know how it felt...but it kept me on track, and I had to prove it to not only me, and prove to my dd that she deserved this milk, but to my dh ('d' not for dear)
good luck the next time around.
re-lactation sounds pretty cool.
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