Ellie's Mom, that is just horrible what your friend went through! I'd consider that a scare tactic.. Why must a child be compared to others especially when they are healthy & thriving? The curve can be decieving & often times causes unnecessary panic & worry in parents. I'd say 3lbs is a hefty ammount of weight for a little one.
And really the physician should focus on the positive aspect of the weight gain..
I remember when our now 9yr old dd went for a check up at 6 mths & the dr said her head was larger than normal. I never noticed it & her head didn't seem bigger than other children's. But, it did cause me to worry for quite some time over nothing. Also when I was in labor w/ our youngest dd my midwife alarmed me that our child seemed to be too small!!!! While I was contracting she said this!!!! I broke down in tears & thought something was wrong w/ dd. When she was born, she came out at 8lbs 4 oz. & my midwife was shamed w/ embarrasement & said, I guess I was wrong. All that worry for nothing probably added some time &pain to our delivery.
It's very important to find a physician you can trust.. There's something to be said for that old saying "Mother knows best". I have learned through trial & error to trust my instincts & always second guess a doctor's advice..
I have SIL that is also an RN. She bottlefeeds Carnation good start, Gerber baby food , bottle of juice at bedtime, antiobiotics constantly.. Her dd, my niece is extremely overweight &has a hard time getting around. She'd never think of giving her dd herbal medicine & frowns on it. And when her dd is sick, takes her to the ER every time! She just started in the labor & delivery ward & mentioned an overdue mom that she thought needed a CS because of it.. I worry about her influencing new mothers.. It's scarey to think about the experiences of physicians & how that reflects on the way they practice medicine.
This is not a generalization of all physicians.. There are many prominent & trustworthy drs & rn's out there. It just takes some searching to find a good one.Unfortunately insurance co's dominate our choices & often times won't cover homeopathic care.
Sweet baby3 it's good to know there are RN's out there who are aware of alternatives.. The wonderful physicians/midwives I have found also carry many of the same beliefs in parenting & medicine & because of that I can trust them..