When she takes her nap and when she goes to bed at night she nurses while sleeping for about an hour or so. This has been happening, every day for about 6 months now. I'm getting tired of it. I love to sleep in the day but sometimes I want to get things done while she sleeps. At night it's also nice MOST of the time, but sometimes I want to hurry up and get up and do things. I've tried many times to just unlatch her gently but it rarely works...she gets upset and cries and I don't want her to wake up so I stay there. This is not fun for me! I want to be able to choose to get up if I like. Most times I probably would just lay there and sleep with her but sometimes.....
I need some cold hard info on nutrition in breastmilk as they get older. My dd literally probably eats about a tablespoon-ful of food in one day..combined, and that's on a good day. I offer her food several times in the day but she just takes microscopic bites. I'm concerned that she's not getting enough nutrition. Every piece of food that does go in her mouth is always organic, homemade, and nutritious but it's such a small amount. I can't see how she could possibly be getting enough Vit C and iron especially....
any good books, websites, info on this stuff?
Oh, I do really love bfing her! I just need the amount of time spent doing it to be cut down.
Have you been to a La Leche League meeting? Does your area have toddler meetings? Have you read any of these books:
How Weaning Happens
Mothering Your Nursing Toddler
Our Babies Ourselves
They all talk about this normal ambivalence.
Is breastmilk still nutritious after the first year, you ask? You may want to check out the thread here about comebacks for Silly People. According to the references at http://www.kellymom.com
human milk is still very nutritious in the second year, containing protein, calcium, brain-building healthy fats resulting in higher IQ's, and many vitamins including folic acid and vitamins A, B12, and C.
I don't know about how much iron a nursing toddler gets from moms' milk; that may be at kellymom.com too. It may depend on many things including whether you get lots of iron in your diet.
DaryLLL posted the info that bf babieswho do not eat solids until 8 months have the best iron levels at one year, or something like that.....maybe she will post/comment.
I've heard over and over at this message board and others and other places, that the babies who resist solids may be instinctively protecting themselves from food allergies.
Everything our culture says, all the Western MYTHS say, babies don't really need our milk after a year, human milk is empty calories that only keep the toddlers from eating "real" food etc. etc...but that's not what science is finding.
If you watch her closely while she nurses in her sleep you might notice when she is in a deeper sleep cycle and be able to unlatch her then. I have the same problem with my twins and some days I just have to let them take the lead (frustrating as it is sometimes). On days like that I try to tell myself that all too soon they won't want to nurse at all . HTH
They are very similar to the first year of life and even though a child may be taking in less breastmilk and more solids the antibodies are more concentrated.
I nursed my dd for over 5 years and she was never sick besides a cold. After weaning she had an ear infection, flu and bad chest cold. So I can tell you from my experience that my dd was protected against illness, even though she was nursing very infrequently at 4 and 5
You don't nee dto be concerned about how much food your dd is eating. If nursing isn't there she will eat more solids. 14 months is about were both of my girls started eating more solids and less BM. It is also the time I started nightweaning. It is when Igot resentful of being tied in bed with them and wanted my life back a little.
dd would take 4 hour naps until she was way past completely weaned so laying with her for 45 min- an hour was totally worth it. #2 would olny take hour naps so laying with her for that long just pi$$ed me off. After all I invested a whole hour of my life for 5 minutes to myself. Thoughts like that aren't good for anyone. So I decided if she wanted a nap she would have to figure out how to put herself to sleep. Sometimes she did sometimes she didn't.
It is OK to set limits on your toddlers nursing they will probably resist at first but this is a two way relationship. Everyone has to have some comfort or you will just end up resenting nursing. and each other. that just isn't good.
bM is still nutrition and still fills in the gap. Just keep offereing her food and she will take it. Noone resists forever.
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