while i was pregnant with ds (now 6mos old) i thought i would BF for at least a couple of years. in he past 6 mos we've been through some major rough patches and am currently taking bfing one day at a time, making no long-term promises, although i definitely love it most of the time and want to continue for as long as possible.
for mamas that are EBFing, did you always know that you would EBF or was it something that just *happened*? i hear stories from mamas that say that their goal was to BF for 3 mos, then they said 6 mos, then a year, and then before they knew it they were happily nursing a 4 year old!
i'm wondering if my *not sure, taking it day by day* philosophy is a commom one, if other mamas have gone through it, too. and also if it means that odds are, i will stick with it 'til my babe is an older toddler.
My oldest dd is 3.5 years, and still nursing. I'm pregnant, so perhaps she'll wean during this pregnancy (she usually only nurses at night-time), but perhaps not...either is fine.
So...I guess according to Western standards, I always intended to EBF (to go to 2 years). But I just kind of fell into nursing longer than that...
6 mos rolled around and it was so easy I couldn't imagine switching to formula with all the mixing and getting up in the middle of the night. A year rolled around and I had no idea how I would comfort her if she weaned. I got pg when she was 15 mos old and we had no problems nursing. I was trying to decide whether or not to nurse throughout the pregnancy. (Dd was 5 weeks early, I was worried about ds being early also. He was also 5 weeks early too, but obviously not because of nursing.)
She ended up weaning on her own at 20 mos and had no interest in starting up again after ds was here.
DH thinks that we're going to wean at 2 yrs. I'm not quite sure how he arrived at that number, or why he thinks that he gets to make that decision. Realistically, that's only 7 months away and ds nurses as often now as he did as an infant. I dont think we're going to be weaning any time soon .
I am now firmly convinced they really do quit when they are ready
I was only going to nurse my son 3 months because I was going back to work. Everyone told me I wouldn't be able to nurse once I was back at my job as a firefighter on duty for 24 hours.
Thankfully, I attended a LLL meeting very early in my Pregnacy and learned about pumping. So I upped my goal to l year. My son fell short of one year by 1 1/2 months.
I nursed my dd for 5.8 years with my cutoff being 2 or 2 1/2 years. LOL
Things change as you continue to nurse your children
With this ds (almost 11 months old now) I know I'll make it easily to a year, he bites about once a week, and he's allergic to dairy, so...I'm probably in this for the long haul. I wanted to go to 14 months this time (so I'd have nursed a total of 24 months for my OWN benefits, not counting the endless benefits to my dks) but I think we're in this for at least another year or two. Self-weaning, anyone?
I always thought that he would be so grown up at one year, and its obvious now that he is such a baby, and will continue to be my nursing baby for a long time ahead!!
Heather , momma to ' Parker- 10, Carlee- 7 and our baby Genevieve Faith - 8-27-10
I am also so glad to have you wonderful ladies!
Keep going, mama! You are doing great!
One of the best gifts I've ever been given in my life.
I learned about the WHO recommendation and the concept of childled weaning. I shared what I was learning with DH and decided that as long as there was no legitimate reason to force the issue I'd let DS lead the way. I was a bit surprised when went to 5, but he did slow and stop of his own accord, on his own schedule---not necessarily a conscious schedule however!
With DD I knew from the start that we'd go the same route.
I just *understood * that babies did not nurse after 1...lol...
Then I educated myself when my ds came along and here we are 33 months later....
Doing it b/c it works and b/c it is easy...and like others have said do not know where I would be w/o it when he is sick...it is the only thing that comforts him....when he is having a bad day...makes him smile.....boo-boos are healed instantly.....
and I am so enjoying the things he says about nursing now...makes your heart melt....
it is well worth it if you can make as long as you can...
as with everything, whatever works for you and your family
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