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I have not posted in a while but I have recently come to a place where I am at a loss.
My daughter will be 1 on March 8th.
I have a wonderful, happy, loving baby. I breastfeed on demand and she has slept with us since birth. I had a natural birth at home and she has never been away from us.
At 6 months she started waking allot at night and it has continued. She will wake every half hour to every 2 hours. I am her pacifier, bottle, blankie, music, ect.. I am her only comfort.
I am really tired of not sleeping well, not having a night with my husband, not being able to go out at night. I am a singer and desperately need music to make me happy and until I can leave at night I will not be able to sing. I am tired and never know how much sleep I actually get.
On the other hand... I have no idea how to wean her.. I would like to night wean her and nurse in the day. I am trying to do this in the least traumatic and gentle way possible but I dont see how ….. I leave, or let her cry.
My husband feels I should go away for a night or two and be with her during the day.... that way, she knows I am gone and that she has to sleep with out me. The few times I have left her, she did fine. Daddy put her to sleep (during the day) and she was great.... she sleep longer then she ever has for a nap and woke in a good mood. So, he feels that having me away will be easier on her and me. I cant listen to her cry... in fact we never let her cry for long.
So..... am I thinking to much about this? Is this really a big deal? I feel so conflicted. I want to be free to sleep but I know how much she loves to nurse. I had a horrible night last night…. At some point I started crying because I wanted to sleep so bad. I wake up sore from sleeping a certain way all night…. She is attached.
So, what I want to know is…. How to do this. I need suggestions, stories, ideas, ect…..
Should I leave for a few days? Is that to traumatic? Do I sleep in a different room? Move her out of our room?
I don't want to stop sleeping with her and I think weaning and having her out of our bed is to much…. Is this possible? Should we let her cry….. And she will cry.
Please, any help would be great. I need to figure this out soon and just do it.. I am so wishy washy about the whole thing that at this rate it will never get done. Please…… suggestions?
I also posted this in nightwaking and the family bed.