Keep offering, get in bed with both of you undressed (her in a diaper) for lots of skin to skin contact, snuggle a lot, be calm about offering. Or maybe try walking around, singing and talking calmly, and offer her the breast while walking.
But I would definitely get professional help ASAP.
Hang in there!
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thanks for all you suggestions and support!