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So glad to find this thread!
The support of peers can make all the difference. My dd just turned 4 and no-one I hang out with nurses this long. I have one friend who was still nursing her 3.5 year old and so we would always compare notes with each other, but she just weaned completely. I have to admit, I was on my way to doing the same, without any good reason other than pressure from others and the fact that I didn't personally know anyone else still nursing at this age. I had one very fortuitous, brief phone conversation with an aquaintance who nursed her daughter until 6-7 yo, and it really made me stop and reevaluate.
I love nursing! My daughter loves nursing! That's the bottom line. I did set boundaries and restrictions finally, but I'm easing up on some of them. We don't nurse in the day at all anymore, and we were at the point of only nursing at bedtime, if that, and nothing in the night or morning. Now I'm letting her occasionally nurse in the middle of the night or in the morning if she asks for it.
I was getting so much positive feedback from my genuinely supportive and accepting friends and family for the "advances" that I was making in my work of gradual weaning. I was proud of myself for being able to actually have some control over some aspect of my parenting life. But that's really a lot of what weaning was about, control. And that's not what I want to base this nursing relationship on. I completely support my friend who just weaned, because she was at a point of really hating breastfeeding and resenting and avoiding her daughter, but for me, it's not the same.
Just here to say thank goodness we are all here to support each other, because just one conversation with one mama was enough to really turn things around for us, and I'm so grateful!