I want to hear about your first time NIP'ing. Were you self concious? Did a lot of people stare?
I live in a very BF unfriendly area. I have only seen one other person BF'ing IRL in my entire life!!
Mama to DS (3/7/06), DSD (11/17/02), DD (1/16/08 ) , DS2 (5/30/10) and Baby Quinn (R.I.P 3/22/13)
But we were in a pretty sheltered area and there really weren't very many people around. Also, DS was only a few days old and we were still getting the hang of nursing in general!
Since then I have NIPed quite a bit and I still feel uncomfortable sometimes but I don't feel like I need to erect a tent or anything anymore. I have nursed in restaurants, bookstores, grocery stores, parks, etc. I have never gotten any reactions from anyone other than smiles.
Tip: Learn to nurse in a sling. From when we learned to do that (which took awhile) until DS was about 6 months old I loved nursing him to sleep in the pouch and it worked as a cover-up at the same time!
Mommy to an exuberant 3 yo and a new one!
I've since nursed in doctors' offices, Target, Taco Bell, Pizza Hut, my son's school, the mall, etc. etc. etc. And I've learned that my LO won't tolerate anything over his head/face, so I've just learned to bare it all and not worry about what others think.
Congratulations on your sweet baby! She is beautiful!
So sad in some ways, but I didn't know any better and it was a start.
My first NIP experience with Terran was a bit different. I needed a few things from the store and couldn't send the older kids, since I only had checks and no cash. I managed to get the two of us dressed and Terran in the sling and latched on. Between my size Large T shirt and the top rail of the sling, I doubt if anyone saw anything that trip.
The only other time I've taken him out of the house, I showed him off to a (male) neighbor and it didn't occur to either of us to be self-conscious about the fact that Terran was nursing. He's a sleepy baby who needs me to be aware that he gets enough to eat and the neighbor is a reasonably new daddy himself.
I'm so grateful to you for breaking the cycle and normalizing breastfeeding! Perhaps the teenaged girl who glances away nervously the first time you NIP will grow up to have a first NIP experience that is more like Terran's than Phoenix's, all because of YOU!
Mama to DS (3/7/06), DSD (11/17/02), DD (1/16/08 ) , DS2 (5/30/10) and Baby Quinn (R.I.P 3/22/13)
I have been a bit nervous myself about NIP... I know there I can't stay at home forever and wouldn't want to! I am just a pretty shy person, I don't think anyone ever had even seen my boobs until the day I gave birth
~*Have more than you show, speak less than you know*~
I've since gone on to breastfeed all over the place, in many different cities/states and all kinds of places. No one has ever said anything to me. Just do your thing and don't worry about what everyone else is doing.
I tend to take her to the car to nurse when it's not too cold because she's going through a phase where she pullls off and looks around A LOT! It's just more comfortable for me.
I also wish that it were more socially acceptable, but I can't help feeling weird about complete strangers seeing my nips!
Then it was the chiropractor's office, and the church nursery, and then the chinese restaurant in the mall which didn't work, so we found a hallway with a bench in it.
I have enouch practice now, that when DC#2 comes along, I really won't care!
Wife to J, SAHM to W (03/06) at 32w4d, C (10/08) , and H (02/11)
Fast forward 5 years of nursing... NIP looks like this. Sit down, whip out breast, latch baby on, relax...
i had a c-sec, so we didn't go very far for the few 4- 6 weeks anyway. after that time passed ( and we went through a ton of crazy bad latch and bad nursing and mad pumping in that time) i was so shack wacky and ready to get out.
i started by doing it at friends and family house first. then i moved to the car at the mall...then inside the mall in the nursing or changing rooms. then the main mall on the bench with the stroller in front of me...then...etc.
it was really baby steps for me i was never approached by anyone who was disgruntled or nasty. anyone who was uncomfortable either said so behind my back or just left the area i DID remember getting lots of smiles and good thoughts sent my way.
another thing that made things easier for me was losing the nursing cover or blanket. the more i tried to cover myself up , the more of a spectacle that i made. i had FAR better luck just wearing a nursing tank ( my faves were by bravado designs www.bravadodesigns.com ) and a front opening shirt over top. the tank covered my belly, the babe covered the nip and most of the boob and the over shirt covered anything else that i wanted. it seriously was really easy.
practice a few times at home until you are comfortable. you can do this!! and it is a really cool feeling being able to go anywhere with your child and know they would be ok as long as i had diapers wipes and my breasts.
good luck and enjoy the freedom
Then we went to Disneyland when DD was just over 2.5 MO... she was getting so wiggly that it was very tough to nurse her under a cover. So I threw caution to the wind and nursed her without a cover. Nobody stared. I didn't flash anyone. And I felt soooo liberated!
Now she's 7.5 MO and I've nursed her at restaurants, theme parks (went back to Disneyland a few weeks ago), church, stores, benches at the mall, the airport, and just about everywhere else. No one has ever given me a hard time about it and I don't live in a particularly crunchy area.
My advice is to just go for it! Chances are, you'll inspire another mamma to do it too!!
Now, I try to plan ahead with my clothes and blankets, etc... We don't go out a lot, except to relatives houses. I wear a nursing tank under my clothes and if I need to be more descreet, I put a burp cloth or something over the top of my boob.
You get better at it the more you do it. It's sometimes hard when they're older and squirmy and tend to pop off more suddenly.
At 6 weeks, when my aunt was visiting, I went on a walking tour and had to nurse in the middle of the tour. I turned away, got situated, tucked E up in the Moby wrap and rejoined the group. Apparently you couldn't see anything because the tour guide decided to point out that E was his youngest group member ever during the nursing session, directing everyone to look at us! After that, I pretty much have nursed anywhere and everywhere.
But I do remember the first time I needed to lose this constant self consciousness... My FIL came shortly after the birth and since DD had this "meal sensor" and needed to nurse as soon as I sat at the table, I spent 2 dinners and a lunch with my shirt open in front of my FIL and that helped me a lot. It was weird for the first little bit, but then I stopped thinking about it.
So maybe you can do something like this as a "practice". Nurse at home in front of people to slowly expand your comfort zone.
DH now talks about me "just whipping it out" and although I hate the expression I know he is proud of me and my confidence in nursing DD wherever, whenever :-)
Yarn-aholic Mom to 2 cutest little girls. Dec 06 and May 09 Looking for time to and . Will always remember my missing babies too
I got a little self conscious when (my younger) DD got so BIG at not even 2 that she looked 3 or 4 (she's nearly 40 lbs at 2.5 and almost the same height as her 4.5 y.o. sister) because she's 95th percentile across the board. So while I wasn't self conscious exactly, I could have almost understood someone going "Whoa! That big kid is still nursing?!" Even though she wasn't yet 2.
But: a really nice lady (older than me, maybe 50s?) came up to me nursing her at 20 months or so in a local kid-friendly coffee house and gave me a bumper sticker that said "Thank You for Breastfeeding Your Baby" and I was so touched. I have no idea who she is but she really made me smile.
Second baby I was determined from the start that I was going to nurse wherever I was with no shame or covering up. So the first time my ds was about a couple of weeks old(and tiny and wobbly since he was a preemie). I was at a really small british resteraunt that was very open, just tables and chairs. I had a bunch of young men sitting behind me and ds needed to eat. I told my dh that I was determined to nip wherever I was and so I might as well just jump right in. It was a bit difficult because he needed help latching, it was hard to keep from occasional flashing. But since then I've made a determined effort to nurse no matter what and it has gotten to be old hat. And now I don't feel the need to hide, our nursing relationship is convenient and still going strong
I totally agree that you look more conspicuous with a blanket. Nursing in a sling is awesome if you can do it, but beware you may want a nursing top for those occasions. I went to nurse dd in the sling at the store cause I was in a hurry and realized the only way I could do it my side and lower back were exposed from pulling up my shirt...and frankly...I'd rather flash a little boob than share a love handle with the public. SO I nursed her in the sling, standing in the ladies room...thankfully she was very efficient
You'll be fine...start small..find a nice quiet corner somewhere (bookstores sometimes have great spots or go to the movies and nurse in the dark)...I promise the first time is the hardest. Each time you go and find that no one even notices, let alone care...you'll get stronger!
Mommy to Alonzo (11), Jacob (9), : Lucas (8) & Trinity (almost 2!!)
The baby had a blanket over its head. I saw it, realized what she was doing, and was happy for the mom. I didn't see anyone else look or comment on it. I peeked over a bit because I'm about to have DC#1 and was curious to see her NIP setup (was it a sling?, blanket? etc). DH didn't even realize it (probably thought she was cold) until he saw a baby a few minutes later and wondered where it came from. Then he finally put two and two together.
I remember feeling more awkward than anything. dd was 3d old, I was engorged, I was still recovering from a pp hemorrhage, I was sleep-deprived, and my breasts are HUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE even when I'm not nursing. I just had a regular pillow with me and it was difficult to get a good latch.
After that my favorite pillow arrived in the mail and I nip in a restaurant with my mom and my other kids. My mom was very supportive, she told me that you couldn't see anything.
Since then I've nip everywhere. And I don't use a blanket or a sling to cover me or my boob or the babe. I'm feeding my kid. It's normal, and it's also protected by law in my state, so get over it! (can you tell I'm waiting for someone to say something to me????)
mom of (8) (5) (3) and born at home on Christmas day!
we still eat at this place all the time and i often nurse ds there, except now he's 15 mos and i'm not so nervous! i usually wear a regular tanktop under my shirt. i pull the tanktop neckline under my breast, put ds in position then pull my outershirt over my breast and we go for it. i have never used a blanket to cover, that would be too much for me to coordinate!