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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist
I have a couple thoughts on this.
1) It really sounds like you need to talk to both your DH and your family/friends to find out what the real issue is. Why are they uncomfortable? Would it be ok if you covered up, or do they want you out of the room?
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Apparently I'm supposed to leave the room or if we're in public, go to a bathroom or a fitting room.
: Somehow I'm less than discrete to them and so even though I do my best to cover my breast while she's nursing, sometimes it just isn't possible to to her moving my shirt around so the alternitive is that I leave.
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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist
2) If you are around people that are uncomfortable, just announce that you are going to nurse. If they are uncomfortable, THEY should be the ones who leave - they can go to another room, take a quick walk around the restaurant, visit the bathroom. And you can sit right where you are and nurse. Tell them ahead of time that that is the plan - "From now on I'm just going to give you a little warning before I nurse, kay? And if you want, you can use that time to escape." or however you want to say it.
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The problem is I found its his WHOLE FAMILY that is offended. Instead of coming to me, they were going to his mother, his mother was going to talk to me, and DH intercepted, saying he would take care of it.
We had a HUGE fight over it last night and he popped off with "Well, just use a bottle!" He doesn't seem to realize that by doing that, it's a whole lot more work and nipple confusion can result. We've dodged the bullet so far but that doesn't mean it can't happen to us. I'm so livid at him right now that I could just scream.
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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist
3) If it's the specific people you want not to see you in public, vs. just the general public, just leave their general vicinity if you want to leave. So say you are in Barnes and Noble for example - just head to another area of chairs. Or go to an empty booth nearby if you are in a restaurant.
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I don't want to leave but I'm being made to. I don't have a lot of choices and none of them are really attractive.
A.) I can NIP as I have been doing and say bedamned to their feelings causing large amts of stress in the family
B.) I can just start leaving the room and going to bathrooms, etc. for her to eat, risking a screaming baby.
C.) I can try a cover but she's not normally thrilled with something covering her head or face. (I can't even get her to wear a hat when its cold.)
D.) I can just stop going out save for the absolute most needed trips until she weans.
I'm in a damned if I do, damned if I don't situation.
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Originally Posted by BarefootScientist
4) As far as other discrete ideas, there aren't a lot of other options. Learn to nurse in your mei tai and wear a sweater OVER the mei tai. That almost completely covers you up. (ETA I mean a button-up sweater, unbuttoned but using the side to shield you. Not a pull-over sweater.) Nurse in your car. That's all I can offer.
Good luck and
I hope you figure this out soon - it sounds like it's stressing you out!
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I'm trying to learn to nurse in the mei tai but it's not as easy as I thought it would be. We don't have a car or I'd do that.
What's worse is I went to get some support from my own blood family and they won't even take my side. I never thought my feeding choice would leave me feeling this alone.