My ds in almost three, and is very verbal and is growing so smart every day. (Which I like to give some credit to the extended nursing). But as he gets older I am getting more uncomfortable with his nursing habits. He talks about my "boobs" all the time, wants to touch them all the time, etc. It is wierding me out. It is one thing to nurse a little baby, but another to have whole conversations about it with them, kwim? I know I have childhood issues interfereing with this, but the counselor I am seeing isn't supportive of me nursing so I can't talk about it with her.
I tried setting boundaries with him, but I feel like I am giving him the impression that there is something wrong with him for wanting to touch or to nurse. I feel bad, I don't want him to feel that way, but there are my feelings of heebie jeebies that I know he is picking up on as well. So, the poor kid, in his confusion, is asking to nurse all the time, which is turn, is driving me crazy, and the cycle goes on and on.
I have thought about using something concrete to set limits, like blocks. Giving him five blocks to start the day, and every time he nurses he gives me a block. Has anyone else has success with this type of thing? And for setting the booby boundaries, I have tried saying, "this is mommy's body, you need to ask to touch it, you can't grab me whenever you want." Then he says, "no, its mine. those are my boobs." So at this point I am stuck.
As an added note, I have had this problem with DH, in a different sort of way. He is very touchy feely and I am not, so I had to tell him that he needs to ask before he gives me a hug, etc. Because I was starting to recoil every time he came towards me. It is similar in that I am starting to get the same feeling from DS every time he asks to nurse. I do have a problem with people touching me, although I had thought that I overcame most of it with having a baby attached to me all day! But now as he grows older, the relationship is changing. I am so confused, anyone out there got anything for me?