So on the one hand, like you mention, my feelings about this pregnancy are very different from the last. More inner-directed, I have become much more able to read my subjective physical indicators since dd's birth. Yet I feel like I am teetering on the edge of the cliff of really trusting myself. I am trusting myself, with physician backup. :-) Now when I look at the midwife options, I am very sensitive to the way many otherwise good midwives, birth centers, etc. undermine this trust.
Wow, you probably weren't anticipating hearing the story of my life when you started this thread, were you? Um, hi everyone, I'm Erin, and I'm due in March.
Where in NYC do you live, Erin?
I will probably call to make an appointment next week. I am feeling nausea enough that I am not worried about whether the pregnancy is progressing.
Mom to John (age 11), James (age 9) & Katherine (age 5)
mom to all boys B: 08/01, C: 07/05 , N: 03/09 , M: 01/12 and far too many lost ones
This will be my third pregnancy and I'm thinking who the heck needs prenatal care lol!! Seems like a strange statement to make, and 10 years ago I would have thought someone was crazy to say that.
I plan on having a homebirth with an "underground" type midwife. I'm a VBAC mom (already had one vaginal birth) so I really don't want the aggravation.
I would like to have an u/s at the 20 week mark to determine sex but I'm wondering if I'll change my mind. It seems kind of petty.
I'm so gung ho about having this birth at home and being as non interventive as possible but another part of me is having a hard time letting go of traditional medicine since it has been burned into my existence since childhood, like most of us.
I am trying to decide if I would like to see a midwife in town for the first part of the pregnancy and then ditch them so to speak. I haven't had a gyn exam in almost 4 years. If it weren't for that I probably wouldn't consent to a vaginal exam at all if I do end up seeing someone traditional.
I'm glad MDC is here because I'm bound to find others who are in my shoes!
By the way, I hope I'm supposed to be here. AF is due tomorrow but I've been getting faint positives for a few days. Last month I had the same thing about a week post ovulation and then they got progressively lighter, and AF came on time. Weird stuff. This time I feel kind of panicked and the positives are still coming! So hopefully it's a go. If it is, I'd be due in the middle of March. I'm hoping for a baby born on the vernal equinox This is something I've always wanted!!!
Anyhow sorry for the jibberish
Originally Posted by CityGirl
Was your midwife at Allen Pavilion Sylvie Blaustein, by any chance? I've been at births with her at Roosevelt--she's good, but she is fairly interventive.
|Things like encouraging you to push the minute you reach full dilation are pretty commonplace, even with midwives--although not so much with *homebirth* midwives, is my impression. The hb midwives are required to put you on much less of a clock.|
|Where in NYC do you live, Erin?|
This time, I found out I was pregnant 5 days before my period was even due.
But at a baby shower last year, for a friend who had a homebirth I met her friend, who had spent 10 yrs as a doula, and is apprenticing to be a midwife. I met her and OMG talk about impressed. This woman is so amazingly intellegent, I went home and told dh "I've found our midwife!" He was like 'huh?' So about 2 days after I peed on the stick I called her, set up an appointment, I'm going to see her around 10 weeks so she can hear the heartbeat, otherwise I'm just peeing on a stick! But I do talk to her, found out how much b-6 to take from my doula and asked my midwife about switching prenatals to Flinstones.
I can't wait but at the same time I'm glad I am not dealing with a 6 wk OB appointment at which they can do nothing but a quick u/s that will show very little, and I'd rather have a slightly more detailed u/s, with out finding out the sex! lol I'm picky!
What about prenatal testing, what have you guys decided to do and not do? I'm pretty much doing nothing. I'll let em test my immunities, but no triple screen, no GTT, no GBS testing. he...they aren't gonna like me (I'm having dual care with my midwife and an OB, I had a not so great experience with ds, and really want the OB as back up)
My DS1 was born in March. He was due the 19th of March, St. Joseph's Day, the day the swallows return to Capistrano. I went to the HB Dr. on July 21. My home pregnancy test was , but at the Dr's office it was When I went back in August a was detected! !!! !!!
DS1 was born March 6 2:36 am; my midwife's birthday was March 5. The pregnancy was hard because he laid on a spot in my hip and did not let up until he was born.
He was a delightful child. One morning, when he was in first grade I went to rouse him from his sleep for school. He was pretending to be asleep, then through his covers off revealing that he was completely dressed even with a big smile at my surprise. He is a responsible person today. Wonderful person!
"The great enemy of the truth is very often not the lie, deliberate, contrived and dishonest, but the myth, persistent, persuasive and unrealistic."
I am waiting 1 - 2 more weeks before going to the Dr. for 2 reasons:
1. I want to get an U/S to confirm the pregnancy right away because I had a blighted ovum before and I know if I got to early they won't be able to see anything...
2. DH just got a new job + new insurance (better one - yeah!!!) so I am waiting for the IDs and all to arrive
Because I had one visit with a midwife (CNM) a week and a half ago, but she didn't even know I was pg until 3 minutes before we were done. (It was a miscarriage "debrief" more than a prenatal.) Mostly I was there to touch base and get her help arranging my backup.
I'm seeing my "real" midwife next week... she doesn't know I'm pg either (again, technically a "miscarriage debrief"... I miscarried 3 weeks before this baby was concieved) but will sooner in the visit.
But I'm not doing much prenatal care at all--I have no urgency to run and get tested for this that and the other thing.
Jenrose, Mama to DD1, born 1993, DD2, born 2005, and DS1, Jan. 2012. Babywearing, cosleeping, homebirthing mom with fibromyalgia and hashimotos. DD2 has a rare chromosome disorder.
On the prenatal appts, I haven't maed mine yet either. I know who I'm going to go with and they start appts at 8 weeks. I suppose I should call soon.
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I ended up making an appt. with the first practice that 1.) had midwives, and 2.) would see me right away!
This time around, we're on the lookout for a homebirth midwife. I just found out there are 4 in my area--where were they hiding? I'd prefer a birth center, but of course, there aren't any of those anywhere near here.
Wife to j, homeschooling mom to five wonders
Thank you for your congratulations. My husband just got a new job and they use the same insurance company. The trick is there is a 90 day waiting period to get the insurance. My husband is working with HR to get this insurance active immediately. If this fails we will continue to go to the doctor and submit the bills we receive to the insurance once it becomes active. This is our first child so we are very excited. CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TOO!!!
This is #4 for us, so its old hat.
I talked to my midwife today. I'm going for a home birth and since I'm a vbac it's like basically not going to be pretty if I go for the hospital.
I was really impressed with her and feel soooo good about things. She doesn't start seeing women until the 12th week because she doesn't feel comfortable doing a doppler until then; plus the risk of m/c is so much lower at that point.
And, an added bonus, I had no idea, but she can order an u/s if wanted plus do blood work. PLUS!!! She may accept our insurance. If not I can handle her fee if broken down.
I'm so thrilled about this new experience and can't wait to get started! I'm just SO doing the happy dance that I don't have to step foot into an ob's office. God willing everything will go smoothly enough for that to happen!!
I called them last week and they said 8 weeks is standard for the first visit (some wait until 12) but earlier is okay and they recommended an interview. So my partner and I went down for that. It was pretty laid back and not very useful but at least it established them as my caregivers. I like knowing that I can refer to them as *my midwives* and not just the midwives I'm going to use. And that I can call if I need to (haven't needed to).
My first prenatal visit is next Thursday, which will be one day shy of 7 weeks. I'm very eager to get started and also I have a LOT of health issues so I think it's important to get continuity of care going. I take good care of myself and don't need help doing healthy things but I'd still like to start early and get some baselines (or close to baseline) and etc.
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