I think you've taken a very important first step in getting a doula, they can be the ones that speak up for you during the difficult parts of labor, when you're more likely to "give in" or whatever else. They can make wonderful advocates for you. Tell your practioner OFTEN that you want as natural a birth as possible, with as little intervention as possible and be very clear with the hospital staff. The more you tell the nurses and so on, the more they will understand you are serious about this. As far as nursing, be very clear on this, too. It seems like right after they are born, I'm so far on cloud 9 I have difficulty comprehending what's going on. Because of this, my first didn't get a chance to nurse until a couple of hours later. I told my mom and dh with my second to NOT let that happen, that I didn't want a thing to happen until I nursed. They spoke up when the nurses wanted to take him away and he was given to me directly. So ask your doula to make sure they don't take baby away. And keep repeating your mantra to yourself, to your partner, to your doula, practioner, staff at the hospital. It's going to take a lot of speaking up, though, just be prepared for that.