I had my first OB appt at 5wks. I called to make an appt as soon as I confirmed with a home preg test because my husband's employer will be laying off some people in the very near future. When you go to your first OB appt, the insurance company is billed a "global amount", which covers everything. So... since i've gone to the dr already, if my husband loses his job, then it's already paid for!! hee hee :LOL
I am choosing to go to a Dr. instead of a midwife. I really have never considered going to a midwife or having a doula. It's just not for me. Both of my births have been w/out meds. I didn't even go to any Bradley classes. I did read a Bradley book but when it came down to it (labor/delivery), I kind of did my own thing. Not so bad. I mean, it's no walk in the park, but it's definitely manageable pain. And definitely worth it.
(I posted some of this in another post somewhere, but here's more about my appt)...
I really love my Dr. When I was pg with #1, I was searching for a female Dr but heard a lot of good things about this one male Dr. So I put aside my feelings and went to this male Dr. I LOVED him; he was so nice and witty. Things went well until towards the end when i let him know I was planning to have an unmedicated birth and mentioned the word "Bradley" and gave him my Birth Plan. He freaked out! He had never received a birth plan before, and he had a bad experience with a Bradley person before and didn't want to deliver my baby. Although some might be offended and leave that Dr, I really did like him as a person and wanted to *show* him that the lady he had an experience was a kook but not all Bradley-type people are kooks. So he delivered my baby, and all went well. He was surprised that I didnt give in to the meds (because most do, I guess). :LOL I think he got a new view of these things since then because when I went back to him with #2, things went really well, too. (no meds again, no birth plan either
Then now that I am PG with #3, I went to him again. I was so shocked! When he walked in the room, he greeted me with a HUG!
He has never hugged me before! Hugging my Dr was something that NEVER crossed my mind, so I was so touched that he hugged me. I felt that he has respect for me and my decisions and has come to really like me. (of course all of this is in a doctor-patient type manner.) I really like him; he is such a respectable doctor.
After having #1, I realized that while some may prefer to do birth plans, I think they are really unnecessary, IMO. I think a birth plan sends the message that you don't trust the doctor/nurses/pediatrician. Who performs their best when they think they are being doubted? It makes them nervous because 1. it's not the norm and 2. they probably feel threatened in a legal sense because if this person is doing a birth plan, they are extremely particular and will sue for anything. It is much better to have a Dr you trust and just *talk* to your doctor and don't be afraid to speak up at the hospital to nurses, etc. In my experience, if you just talk to them, they will listen to you and honor your requests. They thought it was odd I didn't want meds, but everyone needs to learn at some point that all people are different and they are there to accomodate *you*.
I feel better being at the hospital so if something goes wrong, I'll be in the right place!
I'm looking forward to my next appt because I really am happy with my Dr
. I hope everyone else is able to find someone they really like too.