I am 26, and my DH will be 25 in a little less than a month. When dd was born, I was 23 and DH was 21 and we were waaaaaaay younger than anyone else we knew that was having kids at the same time (at least ten years, generally more). Even now, we're quite a bit younger than other people in our social group who are having even their first baby, but at least we've found a little crowd of parents that we feel comfortable with. I'd like to say that I'm not self-conscious about my age when I meet new parents, but I really still am-- I just assume they'll think I'm ignorant and naive because I didn't wait until I was at least 30 (which seems to be the rule) to have babies (more likely, they just don't think we have much in common, given the age difference, and I'm projecting my own insecurities!). Sometimes I end up spouting my resume when I meet people (I'm a lawyer) just so they give me a little credit for being educated.
My mom and I both got our generations wrong. She had me (her only) when she was 35, and people thought she was too old. I had a baby when I was 23, and people thought I was too young. If we had done it the other way around, I doubt anybody would have said anything!
So, I'm curious-- are you "too young" or "too old" to have babies?
Jen Mama of 2 precious boys (9) (6) and still in with my Matt after 12 years together.
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Originally Posted by LoveChild421
So why is it that nowdays people expect us to be in our 30s before thinking of having kids. I know I feel a very strong "biological clock" or instinct to have my kids now. It's strange how small the window is to not be considered "too old" or "too young"- probably 25-32 I'd say- anything outside of that range and you get raised eyebrows!
Just throwing that out there for discussion because I feel that this is an idea that our American culture pushes strongly....cleary readyness for motherhood is a very personal descision and no mother can truely walk in another's shoes.
all of my friends were having babies when i had my first. we all got pg within 6 mo of each other, but hadn't planned it that way.
My sister and I joke a lot because she had her kids very young, they are now mostly grown, one of them even married already, and I'm just getting started. She is in the process of getting divorced and starting a new life, and I am embarking on a new part of my life too. As a matter of fact, my due date and the date her divorce will be final are within days of each other next year! Our support of each other through all of this has been so great - has brought us closer than we have ever been!
We do have a family history of "older mom" births on both sides of the family. My DH was born in 1958 when his mom was 45 years old, which in those days must have been just unbelievable. My grandmother had her third child at age 40!
not that i think all young moms are high schoolish, not by a long shot, just those particular women as a group. i think people should have babies when they feel ready, and as others have said, this is highly individual. i know a woman who got pregnant with her dd when she was still actually in high school. and judging by what a good parent she is to her now 8 yo, she was ready.
Originally Posted by speedknitter
My DH was born in 1958 when his mom was 45 years old, which in those days must have been just unbelievable. My grandmother had her third child at age 40!
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I feel the "too young" vibe a lot too, but realistically, this is the best time in my life to have my kids. We're not in the poor-house, I don't have to interrupt a career to be a SAHM, my body is young and healthy, and I have degenerative scoliosis that may make it difficult or impossible to have babies vaginally later. I am really glad, though, that I'm going to be done with school before this next one comes along; I graduate next month!
ETA: I saw this title from the main board and noticed after i posted that it was a due date club! Sorry for barging in April mamas
I'm twenty, will (hopefully, as my birthday is May 8 and the edd is June 1) be twenty-one when the baby arrives. This will be the first for me and my husband, who is twenty-seven, will be twenty-eight Feb 14.
I want to give some encouragement to Lovechild and thank Natashacat for her views on the "too-young" school of thought. That makes sense to me. However, I have always 'just' wanted to be a stay-at-home mom and even though this pregancy was unplanned it is very welcomed and I'm very glad that things are working out so that I can stay at home and raise the kiddo and any siblings happen along! I don't encounter much criticism about my age.. I'm not showing clothed yet, I'm only about 13 weeks, and I haven't really told anyone other than family and a few coworkers, and they're all very excited and supportive.
Anyways, hi and congrats to all you April mamas: )
I'll be (am now) 29 when this one comes. DH will be either 29 or 30 (he's an April fool B-day). He was only 18 when his DD was born.
Most of the mama's I know IRL are older than myself ... late thirties and early 40's
I always thought I'd have my first at 25 and all of them before I was 30 (I'm only a year off schedule LOL)
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I was NOWHERE near ready for a baby in my early 20s . . . (am I ready now?). I give the younger mamas here all the credit in the world!
For me, the older mom thing (not that I consider myself one) has never been an issue. My mom was 41 when I was born. The only thing that makes me "worry" for older moms is the TTC issue. But, that being said-- you're ready when you're ready, and really nothing can change that. Bottom line: age is irrelevant!
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I'm 29, and 19 weeks along with my first. DH and I wanted some time together before we started having kids. We'll be married almost 7 years when baby is due on April 25th, and together for 9 years.
Congrats to all the other April mammas to be!