Thanks for the well wishes, ladies! We named her Adriana Diane. Adriana being a name we both liked and Diane being my mom's name (she passed away when I was 7yo). I had an almost 10 hr labor with my ds (with 3 hrs stuck at 9.5 cm and having to breathe through the urges to push. ugh!) So this labor was half that of my first labor. In addition to it being my second labor, being at home also may have helped shorten the time for me, as I felt comfortable there.
Yeah, we were almost ready for it. Well, I should say I was ready for it, but my dh wasn't. He was thinking he had a few more weeks. We've been working on some projects around the house and he was hoping he'd get them all completed by the time she arrived. I thought she'd come as soon as the kitchen was put back in working order. I was right. :LOL Plus, ds came almost 2 weeks early and I was expecting (or wouldn't be surprised) if she came earlier, which she did.
We're so excited and totally in love with her.
I can tell you that we weren't prepared for how difficult it would be on ds. He's such a mild mannered, good tempered little boy but emotionally, it's been a big change for him. I think we've been doing all the right things to help support him through the changes, but we've been surprised at how hard it's been on us emotionally to see him hurt and have a hard time with it. It makes both of us cry just thinking about it. Dh has been absolutely wonderful and very sensitive to ds's emotional needs. It's been so touching to see.
The biggest challenge for us has been balancing the consistency of parenting/discipline with respecting and understanding his emotions during this time. Our midwife recommended giving him Pulsatilla to help ds with the emotions. She also recommended ignatia for withdrawals, if he has them, like sighing and obvious sadness. Rescue Remedy has helped all of us.
Oh, I thought of a couple more tips that worked really well for me. Take Arnica right after the delivery, and religiously over the following couple days. If medically and physically ok, get up and move around carefully throughout the day(s) following the birth (but please listen to ur body and care provider to determine if this is right for you!). Freeze some gauze pads soaked in witch hazel for after the birth comfort for your area. I individually wrapped them in cellophane to make it easy to get one when I needed it. It helps during the few days following the birth to keep things from getting infected and helps with swelling and discomfort. Use the peri bottle religiously and take sitz baths. Eat your apricots or prunes and keep well hydrated after the birth to help soften the first bm (which could hurt almost as bad as giving birth!), and be sure to raise your feet on a little stool or stack of books to help ease the actual movement. Ok, that's all I can remember right now of the little things that worked well for me and some of the things that no one told me about (like the bm!).
Good luck with your upcoming births! I can't wait to here about them!