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Old 09-17-2004, 05:17 PM - Thread Starter
 
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well i had a miscarriage yesterday, at 6 weeks. maybe my body just wasnt ready to be pg again, my littlest is only 10 months. maybe it just isnt the right time in my life - it really isnt. maybe the baby wasnt developing normally. who knows. i have such a confusing mixture of emotions!! i was trying to be happy - i love babies - but i was also very anxious about being pg, with a baby by a diff father, while i still miss my babies' dad, and my partner didnt really want a baby anyways. hes in college right now. i was so concerned about my littlest missing out on the one on one attention his big sister got. i felt as if he was being shortchanged. so i feel devastated, yet relieved? i dunno, but i feel guilty for feeling like it is maybe for the best. i guess this gives me an opportunity to make things right in my life before considering another baby.

so I guess im out of the club.
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Old 09-17-2004, 05:22 PM
 
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Despite your hesitations, you loved your baby. I had a m/c in May so pm me if you need to. Take care of yourself, drink lots of water and let yourself go through the grief process. If you haven't seen it, there is a board here dedicated to pregnancy losses. I couldn't imagine going through my m/c without the wonderful women there.
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so sorry for your loss. i can relate to the mixed emotions. when i had my miscarriage in june, i felt like i wasnt ready to be pg. my partner and i started trying b/c of my age and felt like it might take a while so we were shocked when it again happened the first month of trying! my little one still wasnt sleeping and i was exhausted and cranky and me and dh were fighting. i thought about leaving him for a few days. it was a bad time even though i think we are fairly settled. but i was miserable and felt ripped off that i lost the baby too.

the good news is that this time around it just feels right. sounds cliche i know. i dont regret going through the experience now b/c it brought me to this place. i just wanted to reassure you that i think what you are feeling is normal and i hope there is a good chance it may feel better next time. that said, take extra good care of your self. i know it is hard with a baby but find someone to care for the baby and take yourself out to coffee or lunch or whatever treat you can do for you!!
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Been there. Our first, William was stillborn at 35 weeks along. I grieved hard for him and still miss him. Pregnancy after that was always a bit "haunted". Look up www Share Atlanta.org.
They have many tips to help you mourn a miscarriage. Here is a very big, heartfelt hug for you.
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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Lots of hugs to you mama.
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I'm so sorry for your loss... s
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I am so sorry.

I just found out today that I am pregnant and tonight have some bleeding. Its light so I'm hoping for implantation bleeding or something else that isn't a problem.

Mom of a 7 yr old, 4 yr old, and 1 yr old. Wow. How did that happen?
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I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you.
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I'm soooo sorry for your loss....

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Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself.
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Sadie,

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Please take some time for yourself to heal - emotionally and physically. s
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I am so sorry Momma, but I can kinda see how your feel the must have just not been right. I have known about this for about 2 weeks now so Its starting to sink in and Im very excited but in the beginning I had thoughts run through my mind that I felt I shouldnt have thought. I am truly sorry for your loss. Have u been to the doctor? I bled profusely with Braedon at 6-7 weeks and found out I had a sub-chorionic hemmorage and while they werent positive Braedon was gonna make it, they also werent positive that anything would happen, and here he is alive as can be and the most beautiful baby in the world!
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I am sorry to hear that, but it must be what is right for your family, because I think what's best, happens. Better luck next time!? God bless.
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Oh momma, i really have no words to say...
I'm so very sorry.... take care, I understand your mixed emotions....

(i really thought i had already replied to this? hmmm)

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take care of yourself mama...
i had a m/c this year. i know the emotional rollercoaster. its a hard place to be
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