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View Poll Results: Where are you planning on giving birth?
Home 14 48.28%
Birth Center 4 13.79%
Hospital 11 37.93%
Other - Friend or parent's home, hotel room because they have BIG jacuzzi tubs and room service 0 0%
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#1 of 19 Old 10-25-2004, 07:07 PM - Thread Starter
 
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No seriously... Where are you planning on giving birth? Any special reason you chose that birth setting?

I'm planning HB #2. Hopefully a waterbirth. I just picked up the big (pentagon shaped) fishie pool off of Ebay. Can't wait until this baby is ready for birthin'.

My reason for choosing homebirth is because I want my wishes to be respected and no interventions done. I feel free to move, vocalize, eat, drink, pee, poop... ANYTHING... in my own home without making sure it's okay with the hospital personnel. I'd love to have my whole family present as they watch their sibling join our family. I want my boys to bring the memory of normal, natural birth forward into their lives as adults. Hopefully encouraging my future daughter in laws to believe in their bodies and their abilities.

Plus the VBAC climate is less than desirable. I'd hate to be in the hospital continously strapped to montiors and IV's and the such...
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This'll be our 3rd in the same hospital. We had really great experiences with our first 2- but I have an incredible OB, too, and I'm sure that accounts for a lot. She comes to check on me, writes all the orders (NOT the OB on call) and delivers my babies (both times she was not on call) whenever they decide to make an appearance. And we really didn't have any interventions that we didn't want- the nurses were very nice and helpful, but not pushy. Dh and I had a really comprehensive birth plan and knew what we wanted- we and the nursing staff were mutually respectful of one another and it worked out fine. And I feel more comfortable with lots of fetal monitoring- we would have likely lost dd#2 just before delivery without it. To me, it's just too big of a risk to take to not have the safeguards of a hospital and NICU. Oh, and I have tested GBS + w/my other 2 and will receive IV abx this time around, too. But I keep thinking that my OB has a lot to do with how wonderful our births were- she spent so much time with me during my pg's, and we have an awesome rapport. I feel so blessed to have her, and a great hospital close by, too.

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Dd was born at a birth center and the only sucky part of her whole birth was getting there. So this one will be at home. Besides, she came so fast that even if we didn't plan a homebirth this time around, we'd probably end up with one! :LOL
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I really don't have a choice.
My DD was born at 32 weeks and I spent a month on hospital bed rest before that.
I have an incompetent cervix and none of the homebirth midwives will touch me with a ten foot pole....
not to mention my DH would NEVER EVER go for it! DD really scared him and he wants to be as safe as possible.
Not that I blame him, but I figure as long as I make it to 36 weeks it doesn't really matter WHERE the birth happens.

Oh well. I am content with things the way they are.
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Dd was born at a birth center and the only sucky part of her whole birth was getting there. So this one will be at home. Besides, she came so fast that even if we didn't plan a homebirth this time around, we'd probably end up with one! :LOL
:LOL Ginger about the sucky part being getting to the BC... I have a mamma in the HB support group saying the same thing. She spent her entire active labor in the car with her DH offering her a bagel between ctx. When she arrived she was complete and started pushing within 5 min. She says with planning this birth she doesn't know what she's going to do with all the "extra" time of not fighting with traffic or waiving off the offers of food.
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I really don't have a choice.
My DD was born at 32 weeks and I spent a month on hospital bed rest before that.
I have an incompetent cervix and none of the homebirth midwives will touch me with a ten foot pole....
not to mention my DH would NEVER EVER go for it! DD really scared him and he wants to be as safe as possible.
Not that I blame him, but I figure as long as I make it to 36 weeks it doesn't really matter WHERE the birth happens.

Oh well. I am content with things the way they are.
Nina,

Im sorry to hear of your difficulties with your DD. Has your doc talked about a cerclage? I have a friend who suffered loss because she lost 2 babies once she got midway thru with her PG. She then found a doc who did a cerclage and carried 3 pg to term. And her 3rd decided to hang out for 2 weeks after the cerclage was removed, even though the older 2 children came within a day or less. Her last 2 were born with the assistance of a MW that she saw as "shadow care" if she made it to term, which she did... 37+wks.

I don't know if the anecdotal story makes any difference, but just wanted to let you know that their might be an option of having a MW if you make it to term...
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I voted home, I am planning on having a midwife attended home birth "when" I make it to full term. My last two were planned homebirth but with early (but healthy) arrivals of 33 and 35weeks 6 days. I almost made it to the required 37 weeks with lucas but I was 8 days short. This time my mw projected my due date as may 25 but I know because of my loooong cycle it is really due a week later so hopefully this one will be born at home. cross your fingers.
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I voted birth center BUT we are still kinda undecided. I am with a midwife now that is totally supportive of homebirth (unassisted) but in AL no midwife can attend. I am not sure yet if i want to go the totally unassisted route yet or not.
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Originally Posted by Desdamona
I have a friend who suffered loss because she lost 2 babies once she got midway thru with her PG. She then found a doc who did a cerclage and carried 3 pg to term. And her 3rd decided to hang out for 2 weeks after the cerclage was removed, even though the older 2 children came within a day or less. Her last 2 were born with the assistance of a MW that she saw as "shadow care" if she made it to term, which she did... 37+wks.
Desdamona, reading this was like reading about my mom!! I almost had to ask if you know her, but the order of pregnancies wasn't quite right.

My mom lost her first baby at about 22 weeks due to preterm labor caused by an incompetent cervix. For every pregnancy after that, she had a circlage put on at about 10-12 weeks, and it was taken off at full term. For the first 3 kids, we were born just about as soon as that circlage was taken off. For #4, he hung out until 41-42 weeks or so and was born pretty dehydrated. Because of that, she opted for induction for #5 on her due date, just in case. My mom also saw a midwife for #4 and #5. With #5 she had a lot of preterm contractions and ended up on bedrest and medication (yikes), but she did make it to the end and has 5 healthy adult kids now.

Just a side note: don't you wish there were a better phrase than "cervical incompetence" in general use? :

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i voted home...but m/w and i arent firm on that yet. ds2 was birthed at home and i hemoraged abit after the placenta. she wants me to go to a naturalpath physician and take all these herbs and tinctures so it doesnt happen again. i will if i can afford it or its covered in my extended plan. i hope so. anyways, my midwife says, if not i may need to deliver in the hosp. its a really nice set up there, too. Either way....as long as i get to live and hold a baby ill be ok
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I want a home birth. I am planning it that way for now. I had a myomectomy in 6/2003. The midwife I am dialoging with wants to see my surgical notes first, but so far it sounds ok. I am doing concurrent care with an OB, just in case, I end up in the hospital. He encourages me to have a c-sec, but has not said definite no to vbam. We are taking it as it come. DH supports me either way, and feels I can make an educated decision.
Anyone here deliver after a myo???
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We are going to the same birthing center as last time because it was WONDERFUL!!!
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i voted home...but m/w and i arent firm on that yet. ds2 was birthed at home and i hemoraged abit after the placenta. she wants me to go to a naturalpath physician and take all these herbs and tinctures so it doesnt happen again. i will if i can afford it or its covered in my extended plan. i hope so. anyways, my midwife says, if not i may need to deliver in the hosp. its a really nice set up there, too. Either way....as long as i get to live and hold a baby ill be ok
How was your iron levels during pg, Jenn? History of anemia? Just asking because my dear friend had her 4th baby at home, who's always dealt with anemia and had a PPH. Thankfully with a very skillful MW everything was handled at home. She's thankful because she's convinced if she was at the hospital she would have been wheeled into the OR and might have lost her uterus.

Anywho... I took "green caps" that an herbalist friend made up. They consisted of nettles, yellow dock, dandelion and RRL. All which help boost iron levels and purify your blood naturally. It may be a good (natural) alternative to help your iron levels increase if that wass what was to blame for the bleeding last time.
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I want a home birth. I am planning it that way for now. I had a myomectomy in 6/2003. The midwife I am dialoging with wants to see my surgical notes first, but so far it sounds ok. I am doing concurrent care with an OB, just in case, I end up in the hospital. He encourages me to have a c-sec, but has not said definite no to vbam. We are taking it as it come. DH supports me either way, and feels I can make an educated decision.
Anyone here deliver after a myo???
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Hi there. I believe that it depends on what kind of myo was performed as to what your MW will be comfortable with (HB vs hospital). I think that unless the fibroids were located on the upper portion (fundus) of your uterus, your "risk" of rupture are about the same as a mom who has had a previous lower transverse insicion for a c/sect -- less than 1%. I hope that your op reports are favorable for a homebirth. let us know how things turn out.
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Just a side note: don't you wish there were a better phrase than "cervical incompetence" in general use? :
I think it runs hand in hand with "failure to progress"... AKA Dr was tired of waiting!!
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I didn't vote as i'm still undecided. After losing my daughter so unexpectedly at home, i wonder if fetal monitering would have saved her. Dh really wants us to go to the hospital but my heart says stays to stay home again. My first labor was amazing - long but wonderful. We have to discuss the options with our wonderful midwife duo who do home and hospital. I love them.
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Desa,
Yup.. I am having my "cervical length check" ultrasound tomorrow and as long as everything looks good I will be having the cerclage put in the week of the 16th.

I had one with #2 and it was very successful. In fact I went to 42 weeks.

I have been thinking about going to a FABULOUS! male midwife here in town for "shadow" care.. but will still have to give birth in the hospital (DH ) But he would support everything!
I am not sure my insurance will pay for both

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Nina,

Im sorry to hear of your difficulties with your DD. Has your doc talked about a cerclage? I have a friend who suffered loss because she lost 2 babies once she got midway thru with her PG. She then found a doc who did a cerclage and carried 3 pg to term. And her 3rd decided to hang out for 2 weeks after the cerclage was removed, even though the older 2 children came within a day or less. Her last 2 were born with the assistance of a MW that she saw as "shadow care" if she made it to term, which she did... 37+wks.

I don't know if the anecdotal story makes any difference, but just wanted to let you know that their might be an option of having a MW if you make it to term...
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I voted Birth Center. We will be using the same center that we used with dd. We really liked the M/W and so will be using her again. This time I want to deliver in the water if all is well with baby. Last time I got out of the tub just before pushing.
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