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I have been wanting to share this story. This is the perfect thread to do so.
Yesterday at my son's baseball games, the 2 moms were talking about how hard it is to breastfeed. I think they knew I am pg, but not really sure if they remembered. One was saying that with her first she tried but gave up after a week, because "You know, the first 5 days are the most important!" The other about how everyone made her feel guilty for not BF, and how dare they!
So of course I chimed in, "Did either of you get any help when you had problems?" Nope. Nada. Not worth it when the free formula was sitting there. Thank goodness, they said, because it is so expensive!
I went on to mention what I do, LLLL & CLE that that, fortunately now there is tons of help. They jokingly said, well I guess you will be BF. I informed them there is no other choice for me. Even before I had my first baby, I knew I would BF. I never considered anything else. They were shocked, literaly. I explained that it was all I knew, thanks to my Mom, Grandma & Sisters. I also explained that it was not an easy haul for me either, but I was determined and very stubborn.
Their sons are the same age as mine, while there was help 7-8 years ago in our area, there are many more resources now. How the area hospitals are now really working on duration rates as well as intiation rates. I mention the link to obesity, asthma allergies. Well the one mom that tried, really listened and asked questions. The one who said everyone made her feel guilty, did not say much other than her son had severe reflux & started rice cereal with in the first 4 weeks, to keep it all down. (OMG!)
I said these things as a way of informing, not judgementl. I said we all do things with the info that we have, and that is all we can do.
We did leave the conversation on a freindly note, but inside so many things were going on in my head, that I probably should not say.
Cristina - "If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded." Maya Angelou