I probably should reply now
I have an excuse... I had my cerclage put in on friday and have been on bedrest. I am at home today, but DH is at school and both kids have fevers.... making bedrest impossible! So here I am!
Thanks for all the information.
I need to stay away from anything that gives any sort of negative to hospitals though.... including the evils of c/s and interventions. Dh knows that I am DEAD SET against a c/s, but still thinks that oftentimes Dr knows best. And in the case of DD I am glad that the OB was there.
I am considered high risk.. I have an incompetent cervix.. according to the Dr who placed my cerclage on friday my cervix is as soft as butter UGH!
So I need to be watched by an OB until after 36 weeks (when they take out the stitch)
My friend is due in a few weeks and will be having a home birth. She is going to bring up shadow care to the midwife and then I will give her a call.
As for the cord issue.. I know it is common and usually no problem. Ds was a little bit more serious he had it wrapped four times and couldn't drop. I was having contractions and yet nothing was happening because he was too high. They convinced me (against my better judgement.. I hate it when I listen to "them" and not my instincts!) to break my water and that is when the trouble started. There was no longer that cushion keeping him afloat and we started to lose his heartbeat. The dr had to unwrap the cord inside of me 3 times (dh almost passed out at the sight of the dr's arm inside me up to his elbow!) and then cut the last loop before he was all the way out. He was fine after delivery though. But Dh is convinced that he would have hung himself eventually and the Dr saved him.
That is why my DH is indeed brave for even considering a HB. After DD scaring us by trying to be so early (really my cervix fault) and then the cord issue... he really thought that our births are cursed.
Desa, I would like to see your handouts!
Thanks all for the great advice!