Originally Posted by mama2simonp
I am still nursing my 18 month old. I had planed to tandem nurse but recently in thinking about it I dont know if I can handle it. He still wakes frequently and wants to hang off me all day. So we are considering weaning. Definately night weaning. I swear if he would just sleep through the night i would be ok. I think though for him not to wake to even ask i am going to have to completly wean him. But I am going to give myself a little more time to make sure this is really what we want to do. I really hate the thought of not letting him decided when to stop. I think what I need is some support from someone that has done it. I should really try going to LLL or something.
My son was 17 months old when my daughter was born. There were times during the pregnancy when I was so touched out and just about HATED nursing him. But I talked myself out of it. I realized he was nursing frequently to keep my supply up since the hormones of pregnancy sometimes cause the milk production to slow. There were days when he nursed every hour. Boy did I hate that! So I created coping techniques.
1. I counted to 100 in my head. It took me about 5 minutes with a minute = 20 count.
2. At 90, I would ask my son if he could stop nursing in 10 and then count out loud and say ALL DONE so he could unlatch.
3. I did the count at night and then offered water so he could learn to not stay latched on all night.
4. I made sure to offer snacks and drinks in cups all day so he could know that he didn't need to nurse every time he was thirsty or hungry.
5. I tried to stay busy with him like taking walks or doing active things so he didn't ask to nurse out of boredom.
There were times at night where I was practically crying because he woke up so many times. I tried walking him or reading to him or putting a cartoon on. His daddy tried rocking him too. But I think he needed to nurse that frequently to keep my supply up. I never did notice a dip in supply or a change in my milk - just a increased frequency of nursing.
He woke up much less after his sister was born. Between the two of them, I wasn't waking up any more at night than I did before she was born. He also nursed less after she was born. Hang in there
It's not going to get worse. It will only get better. And if you tandem nurse, you'll be so happy when they are both latched on and quiet and fall asleep for a nap at the same time and then you can doze off too.
He just stopped nursing a month ago and it was very gradual. He went to 1-2x a day around his 3rd bday and then it changed to 1-2x a week and then 1-2x a month. Then he just stopped asking.