Ok, I finally have some time to write so here I go...
My name is Maegen, I will be 34 next month. I am pregnant with my third baby, due May 23rd. Incidently, this is the first pregnancy we've planned! I have a son named Oscar, who just turned 5 and is in kindergarten, and a daughter named Rose (Rosy) who will turn three this month. My husband is named Harold (Harry), he works as a stockbroker and I parent full time. He's an amazing parenting partner (and otherwise too!) and although our arrangement is very uncommon around here, it suits us really well. We got married in April of 1999 and we found out that we were expecting O about a month before our wedding!
With Oscar I had a very traumatic, long labour with almost every intervention possible and he ended up being delivered by ceasarean. I found out later that my midwife, who had come up from the States and had previously worked only in hospitals, had a terribly high C-section rate. Being a first timer I took it for granted that having a midwife would give me a higher chance of having the birth I wanted. When I got pregnant with Rose, I was much more careful about who I chose to help me deliver her. I found a wonderful midwifery team and also hired a doula. Midwifery care is completely covered here in BC so all we had to pay for was the doula, best $500 we ever spent! Although I didn't end up having her at home (we transferred to the hospital when my water broke and it was thick with meconium), she was born vaginally with no drugs. Her start in life didn't prove to be as simple as all that though! When she was 2 weeks old, I had a really severe post partum hemmorhage. I was very close to having a hysterectomy or dying. After inumerable drugs, a D&C, 5 litres of blood transfusion and a week in hospital, I recovered. Apparently, I should have lost my milk supply, but luckily, no one told me that
and I had no problems nursing her. She has weaned (I think) just during the last 2 weeks or so. My milk supply dwindles rapidly during pregnancy and I feel a lot of pain when she nurses. Oscar weaned while I was pregnant with Rose too, though it was a lot later, and he was a year younger. She doesn't seem to be missing her nurse any more, I think at the end, it was frustrating for her.
I guess I'll have to change my sig when it becomes official!
With this pregnancy we have chosen a midwife from the same practice we used for Rosy's birth and we will work with a doula again also. Although I would love to have a home birth, with my history of hemmorhage both at the births and later, we have decided to deliver in a hospital. In BC midwives can attend birth at home or in hospital. We still plan to stay at home for as long as possible during labour, and go to the hospital pushing!
On the me side of things, I have my degree in Child and Youth Care Counselling and I worked in the school system for many years with kids who needed support with emotional, social and family issues. I loved the work but, in the end, got fed up with the bureaucracy and the uncertainty of being in a supporting role in the schools (funding cuts etc). I went back to school and did my teacher training in a post grad program.
I'm a certified teacher but I've chosen to stay with my kids for now.
There, I've written my book. I must say, Anna, this was a very good idea you had! I feel much closer to everyone now that I know a little bit about you all!