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#1 of 52 Old 12-07-2004, 02:56 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Was thinking a fresh start might bring in some more conversation. So Let's start by introducing ourselves all again.

My name is Anna. I'm 25. I'm a stay-at-home mom who never finished college, though started a few times. Married to Jon for 6 years. I have one son, Aleksander who is 2 (8/16/02). He was born at home at my mother's house (she's a certified nurse midwife) with a cleft lip & palate.

I've moved every two years for as long as I've been with Jon. In six years, we've lived in four cities, three of them in Ohio, the third was in Montana though. We just relocated here to Cleveland in August while trying to conceive and are thrilled to be back home(ish). I say all this because it effects our plans for birth. My mother will come to my birth, but we've hired an outside lay midwife to be here if we need her since my mom lives 3 1/2 hours away. We did all this moving because my husband has been steadily collecting degrees. Thank god he's on his PhD and is getting close to done (well, in a few years).

Aleksander's cleft is affecting this pregnancy as well. We took careful measures to not get pregnant on accident ever again and this baby was therefore very carefully planned. I took a bunch of folic acid for quite a while before and after conception, and we have decided to have a level II ultrasound to check for defects. Though our chances are small of having a repeat defect, and though routine ultrasound is against our philosophy, we felt that this was the best decision for us emotionally. Also, I could not nurse Aleksander, though I pumped breastmilk for 13 months, so nursing will be a whole new experience for me.

As you may know, I experienced a great deal of morning sickness the first few months of this pregnancy. In fact, I've had more complaints than I did with my last pregnancy by far. We're finally starting to have a life at home again, however. I am pretty convinced that my excess of symptoms means that I'm having a girl. I am 15 weeks 1 day and not feeling any movement yet, and often not thinking much about the pregnancy except that I feel like crap. :LOL I have bought a bunch diaper covers and some new gorgeous dyed prefolds for the new baby, so I'm very much looking forward to it. I guess I'm qaiting for movement and more growth to feel that the pregnancy is really real.

Some more about me, not pregnant me... While in college, I studied Art History, which I still love, but am not likely to return to in a formal way (at least not to get the rest of the degree). I also paint, write, do photography (sorta - I hate developing, I like taking pictures), have learned a little crocheting, and am generally pretty crafty, in a very artsy way. I have a blog, which you can link to through my signature. I'm working on a whole website right now, but I'm not sure when it'll actually get up, though the design is nearly finished (very simple, I'm no graphic designer). I'm also a moderator here at MDC. I moderate Personal Growth, Parenting Issues and Activism.

Well, I wrote a book... Someone else's turn!!!

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My name is Wendy. I'm 28 years old and married to 26yo Ryan. This is my second marriage and our second child together, though this will be our (my) fifth child. I started having children very young, 15, but wouldn't change a thing. Up until recently I have raised all of my children pretty much alone. We are from Oregon, but moved to California in August. In moving I left my 12 yo dd with her dad in Oregon because she didn't want to leave. I was ok with it, sort of, because she's mature enough and old enough to make that decision and she's in great hands with her dad and step-mom and their other 2 children, all who I adore! We are all very good friends and speak often. Recently, though, I've come to miss home and my dd more than I could have imagined and Christmas approaching has made it all that more difficult. My dh just lost his job (the whole reason we moved here to begin with) and things are tighter than ever. I'm not sure how we're going to do Christmas and I'm stressed out because I can't even afford to bring my dd down here like I was supposed to. The whole thing has inwardly made me an emotional basketcase, but I'm trying very hard not to show it outwardly because I know my dh already feels very bad about this and I don't want my dd to worry about things. I'm generally a very emotional person so this is a huge step for me, lol. After paying all of last months bills plus some of this months bills our bank account is nearing empty. I suggested to dh that he should look into finding a job back in Oregon. He's open to the idea, though he loves it here, and so hopefully something comes through. And even more hopefully he finds a "for now" job here so that we can get through the holidays ok and our bills don't stack up beyond repair.

My other children are 9, 6, and 17 months. Alexis, the 9 yo, is a gymnast. She's been in gymnastics for almost 3 years now and will probably start competing soon. She absolutely loves it and is amazing at it. She and my 6 yo, Aspen, are homeschooled. My 6yo was in tai kwon do. He was very good at it but we removed him from one studio because the master was a total jackass. We keep meaning to put him into a new studio but are waiting for the financial situation to work out first. He is quite the character! He's one of the funniest kids I've ever met. The 17mo, Kaiden, was born 2 months premature for reasons unknown. We knew from the beginning of the pregnancy that I wouldn't make it to term but never did figure out the problem. I started bleeding early on and test after test, u/s after u/s and I kept getting different answers. I spent my entire pregnancy on bedrest, 3 months in the hospital and 3 months at home. He was born at 31weeks, 5days gestation weighing 4lbs, 8oz and at 17in long. He was super healthy from the beginning and stayed in the NICU long enough to learn to keep his temp up and to suck, swallow, breath. He never needed help breathing and never had apnea. He was a bit jaundiced for a while, though. After 3 weeks he came home with the NICU nurses telling me he would never nurse properly and I should just stick to giving him bottles. One or two weeks after being home he nursed like a pro and hasn't had a bottle since. He is currently learning to talk, but only says a few small words, and walk. He doesn't walk yet, which apparently (according to everyone and their mom) means that he's lazy, I carry him too much, or he's "behind". It apparently doesn't occur to anyone that he may just be on his own schedule and will walk when he feels like it. My oldest didn't start walking until she was 15 months and is one of the smartest kids around. Gestationally, Kaiden is 15 months now and is taking 4-8 steps at a time...when he feels like it. OH, forgot to mention, after he was born the OB pulled out a goose egg of a mass that turned out to be a fibroid. My midwife says that probably didn't cause the preterm labor, but I'm certain it must have been the cause since there is no other reason for it.

This pregnancy has been uneventful. So much so that I've constantly worried about something being wrong. I've turned into a crazy neurotic person, lol. I didn't hear the hb until I was about 12 weeks along. I got a basic "find out the sex" u/s on Dec. 2nd and found out I'm having a boy! His name will be Max Grayson. I've just started feeling him kick this week, though I swore I was feeling him early on. I am now about 18 weeks pregnant. Max will be born at home. Dh has recently been questioning why we spend so much on our midwife who seems to do nothing. I suggested I do my own prenatal care and have the baby unassisted. He says I can do my own prenatal care and then we'll go to the hospital to have the baby, lol. We'll see how that all turns out!

I think that's about all for my book. Any questions? hehe
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Hi Mama's, I am Kathleen, I am 30 and so is my dh. I am now 19 weeks along with my second baby.I am a SAHM and vegan, My ds is six, I homeschool him and love it

DH and I have been married for 2 1/2 years, I share custody of my ds with his father. That has been trying at times but my son is happy so that's all that matters. I had pretty bad ms with this pregnancy but the last few weeks have been a huge improvment!!

I have felt some movement, I am always checking for movemetns now. I am planning a home birth with a midwife. I heard the heartbeat at my 12 week appointment but I have not had the midwife use the doppler since then. I am hoping at my next appointment 12/14 that she can use the fetascope (sp?) so we may hear the heart again, but now that I am feeling movement I am not too concerned to hear it.
I am planning to cloth diaper this baby, so I think I need to spend more time on the cd boards I know I have a lot to learn about cding, it seems a bit overwhelming all the choices and such but I have a few months to figure it all out.

My edd is May 4th, and my ds's birthday is May 1st (98), he says I can have this baby any day except the first! I hope this is not a sign of his willingness to share My sister had her second son on my son's birthday three years ago so these May baby's run in our family. Her first born son was born May 11 1996! So if the family tradition holds true I will have another boy in May I have a feeling it is a boy, but we would be thrilled with a girl!

Thank you ladies for sharing a bit of your lives here, I have to say I love mothering magazine and MDC. It has been so reassuring to know there are other people out there parenting with so much love and good intentions You mama's are the best!!


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I'm Anita. DH is Justin. I'm 24, he's 23, been together 6.5 years, married for 3.5 years. I'm still rather new to MDC - and the May board is where I'm the most active thus far. Elijah is DS - he will be 1 year old on SATURDAY...and I'm kind of sad about it. I think that a lot of it has to do with my hormones right now - because I mentioned it on another board that I was sad that Elijah was turning 1, and getting so big, and made mention that I figured they understood what I was talking about - even if DH had no idea why I was sad, he says "we're having another one in a couple months...." Apparently I was the lone wolf out there! I'm due May 5th with my second. I will find out (hopefully) next week if I'm having a boy or a girl! We all live in Dayton, OH. I work outside of the home...unfortunately. DH and I are trying really hard so I can stay home (see my vent on the Venting about IL's thread for why...). I'm banking on May when I leave for maternity leave for this little one, but also am not counting my chickens.... IF I indeed get to stay home, I want to CD - but I am not making any major purchases until I know I can do it. There is absolutely NO WAY to get my MIL on board with cloth diapering, and I'm not interested in fighting with her. I do feel like mine and DH's past lifestyle is now running how I raise my kids right now, and I don't like it. I really hope to resolve this issue soon....very soon.

Editing to add: Forgot to mention. I had Elijah all natural using a M/W, my DH as my wonderful helper in a birthing center that is located in the hospital. I plan on doing the same with this one - as the birthing center was my most ideal situation, especially since it IS in the hospital - and NICU is down the hall for those "just in case" lingering thoughts...especially for DH!!

Anna – just curious, where else in Ohio did you live??? I’m from Dayton.

Kathleen – Is a Vegan the same as vegetarian? Sorry, but I am still a tad new at MDC, and this is the only place I’ve heard that term.
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I will get to my bio later this evening.

I had the u/s today it's a boy . That make 3 boys for May so far. I hated having an ultrasound and do not care to go through it again. I feel weird. I thought I didn't care but I really wanted a girl. I am upset with myself for feeling disappointed. I am scared I am going to be a bad mother.
I'll tell about myself later.
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My Book: I am Cristina, 35 years old & married to Matt, who is also 35. We have been married for 13 years. We have a DD Amber who is 10 and DS Austin who is 7. I am due 5/25 with our bonus baby!
Prior to being pregnant, I was full time student working on a nursing degree. I was planning to start nursing school spring 2005, now I will be nursing instead! I had quit a good paying job to go to school in 2002, and loved being in school since I made that decison. Last summer my daughter & I were in a car accident. I was having much anxiety from the accident & my Doc changed some medications that I was on. I think that this increased my fertility, along with DH being scared he almost lost his DW & DD, our sex pattern changed & whoops, I am pregnant with bonus baby #3. I was wondering why nothing was clicking last fall semester, and that made sense when those 2 lines appeared.

I am also a La Leche League Leader which I totally love. It is a great way to get those baby vibes taken care of & I love helping mothers & babies. So much that last spring, I finished a Certificated Lactation Educator program. Mothers & Babies are my passion & I will one day finish school so that I can finally get paid for the work that I do. I am also a trained Doula but do not really work as one. If friends or family want me for their birth I am happy to be there, but I do not advertise or look for births.

My husband is a Physical Therapist Assistant & loves his work most days. (Which is something that I can not wait to say. I hated my job of 13+ years.) He does a wonderful job of supporting this family. I have to say he is awesome & my best friend. Right now he has some medical issues going on, but we are trying not to worry to much. He is in the process of ruling out or diagnosing an acoustic neuroma. That is a begnin tumor on the auditory nerve. He has significant hearing loss on the right side, constant ringing in that ear, along with dizziness. We are waiting on HMO approval for an MRI right now. The size of the tumor will determine course of treatment. That can range from nothing, to a hearing aide, to surgery. With surgery there are many side effects to consider from peralysis in the face to 0 hearing. Like I said we are trying not to worry to much & taking it one step at a time.

DD is a wonderful gal. She has a very busy social calendar. She is a cheerleader, girl scouts, plays in the school band & sings in the choir. She & I have a great relationship & I will work to see that it continues as she is aproaching puberty. I tease her that her & I are growing boobs together! She wants new bras for xmas, sigh. She is growing up so fast.

DS is a great son too. He is very tall for his age. He and my DD wear the same size clothes & about the same height. He loves to build & draw things. He is a very good artist & he amazes his teacher by his artwork. He is very social as well, but has very sensitive side that only those close to him ever sees it. He plays baseball, pretty much year around & loves it.

I would love to post a picture of my family but have no idea how to do it. (Any help? PM me.)

That is it about me & us. We have a great dog, Chester the beagle. He is our family too. Can't leave him out.
Have a great day ladies!

Cristina - "If you find it in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded." Maya Angelou
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My Name is AmiBeth, I'm 23. I have been married to DH since July 2000. I am a SAHM mom to 2 boys, DS1 (Brayden) was born Oct 2000. DS2 (Colby) was born Oct 2003. At 2 months old Colby began losing weight rapidly, and wa diagnosed with Severe Exocrine Pancreatic Insufficiency (basically he was unable to digest fats). He has been in & out of the hospital & back & forth to Stanford since Jan 2004. He has slowly gained some weight, but we have yet to get a full diagnosis. He is also currently having issues that have led to his liver being tested. His website is tlcontact.com carpage name:ColbysCareJournal.

This pregnancy was a surprise, but every baby is a blessing. We have had genetic testing done, and due to the results will be seeing a specialist in the next couple of weeks. It's frustrating b/c since we don't have a full diagnosis for Colby they aren't sure what to test for this time around.

It has been a very difficult year, as I posted before my half-sister passed away & it is a police brutality case. I have other siblings 4 half-brothers & 3 half-sisters. I really only have contact with my 2 siblings who share the same mom as me. DH & I have had quite a few marital issues that led to a seperation 2 1/2 years ago, things were betterm, now they aren't again. I have posted on some of theses issues. I am trying to decide how long I should work on these same issues with him when he shows no signs of change & thinks there is nothing wrong with his behaviours b/c honestly, I'm tired. I feel stuck though, no job, another baby on the way, etc.

I am 19 weeks, and have defintiely felt movement. I am looking forward to our u/s next week, I think that it will help me to relax once I see the baby & that he/she is healthy.

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I will get to my bio later this evening.

I had the u/s today it's a boy . That make 3 boys for May so far. I hated having an ultrasound and do not care to go through it again. I feel weird. I thought I didn't care but I really wanted a girl. I am upset with myself for feeling disappointed. I am scared I am going to be a bad mother.
I'll tell about myself later.
Oh, sweety, I felt the exact same way when I found out I was having a boy. In fact, after we left and were driving home I started crying! I felt so, so horrible!!! A week later I'm so excited to be having a boy, but man, that initial shock and reaction was bad.
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Kathleen – Is a Vegan the same as vegetarian? Sorry, but I am still a tad new at MDC, and this is the only place I’ve heard that term.
Hi Anita, Yes Vegan is like vegetarian, except I don't eat dairy or eggs. I try and not use any animal products either. My ds's name is Justin!

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Okay, I can play this game.

I'm Vanessa, I am 25, I think. I am married to DH, Tim who is 26, I think. (Im not good with birthdays) We have been married for 3.5 years, together for almost 5. We have one son Kai, who is 15 months.

We live in Fort St. John, in northern BC. It is an oil and gas town and it sucks.

Hrmm, Ill write more later.. someone is in the cat food!
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Anna – just curious, where else in Ohio did you live??? I’m from Dayton.
I'm from Dayton originally, which is where my family still lives and where we are frequesnt visitors. DH went to OSU for two years, where he got his BA, so we lived in Columbus for a while too. Where in Dayton do you live?

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Good idea to start this all over again!
I am enjoying reading everyones story.
WARNING! This is LONG!

I am Nina, I am 31 and have been married to Tom also 31 for 4 years.
We have 1 DD, Lianne who is 3 and 1 DS, Conor, who is 16 months. I am due about May 2nd with another boy.

My pregnancy story is pretty crazy!
I have an incompetent cervix...something we found out the hard way with DD. I spent 4 weeks on hospital bedrest and she was born at 32 weeks exactly. She spent 6 weeks in the NICU, she had a really hard time learning to coordinate suck swallow breathe so she could eat! I was also told that she would never breastfeed 100%. They were wrong! She figured it out at about 3 months and would never take a bottle after that. She nursed until I was about 12 weeks pregnant with Conor. My milk changes a lot and my supply goes way down when I am pregnant.
She walked at 20 months and is slightly developmentally delayed due to her prematurity. She has an IEP tomorrow and will start Sp Ed preschool in January to get the therapy she needs. I fully expect her to catch up by 5 (which is what the doctors in the NICU told us would happen)

With Conor, I had a cervical stitch or cerclage placed at 13 weeks. It was successful. My pregnancy was uneventful until the birth. I was forced into an induction. YUCK!
Conor had severe reflux as a baby and we thought he had grown out of it. But he didn't... it just became silent. He did okay nursing, but nursed for short periods of time often all day and night long. I swear he was nursing 20 times a day and waking up every hour at night.
He wouldn't have anything to do with solid food, EVER! I wasn't concerned about that until he was close to a year. I took him to the doctor to see if he had texture issues, but the doctor wasn't a big help. At the end of August/ beg of Sept we found out he was actually losing weight.... on the same day I found out I was pregnant! (remember that I said my milk changes a lot.) He was no longer thriving on my breastmilk... this made me VERY VERY sad. I felt really guilty until I realized that nursing him was the best thing for him. He was still developing fine. He was hospitalized in September for 17 days and twice since, in fact we just got home this weekend. (Thanksgiving in the hospital is FUN!) He had a g-tube placed in October and is strictly tube fed. He weaned completely shortly after the g-tube was placed and has started sucking his thumb. He started therapy for his food aversion and his reflux is finally under control and he is sleeping through the night. He still isn't gaining well though, and we have no clue why.

After Conor I had an IUD. It was painful going in and stayed painful, but the ARNP who placed it told me that it was normal and since the strings were there nothing was wrong. WRONG! In July I finally went to my regular provider thinking I had a kidney infection or a rogue bladder infection. I didn't and so she sent me for an ultrasound to make sure everything was fine. Turns out it wasn't! My IUD was imbedded in my uterine wall and had been the entire 9 months. It was placed wrong. The strings were still there so the Dr removed it in the office with a few pulls (OUCH!) He told me to give my uterus a month to heal and come back to discuss birth control options (he wanted to place another IUD!) OH! I guess I should mention that I was on my period when the IUD was removed.
Well I went back in a month for two reasons. To discuss birth control and because I was still having a pain by my hip.
The night before the appointment I had a dream that I was pregnant. I have never had a pregnancy dream when I wasn't pregnant or about to find out that I was pregnant. In fact a pregnancy dream is what caused me to take a test with DD.
So I went in and asked the nurse to humor me and give me a test.
She came back in 5 minutes later "You ARE pregnant!" I just about fell off the table! So much for birth control options!

So here I am 19 weeks with SURPRISE! I had a cerclage placed at 15 weeks and that seems to be fine. I had a follow up ultrasound done.. cervix is still long, but my fluid is really low. I am now starting to see the effects of stress on a pregnancy and need to take better care so that DR doesn't freak! Baby is still growing well though and I am feeling him move more and more.

We did want one more, just not yet. DH is a student in Network Engineering and almost done, we wanted him to be done and employed before we conceived #3.

I am a part time Sign Language Interpreter at the community college, a job which I normally love. This quarter has been really hard and after Conor's last hospitalization I had my classes taken away until the new quarter starts in January and was warned there might not be much work for me then. This is kind of a relief... Conor needs me and I need to take better care of myself. But at the same time adds more stress because we live off of what I make. Thank goodness we live in Washington State and my kids are covered medically and since I am pregnant I am too!


Well I am going to quit now.. if anyone gets all the way through this you deserve some
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I'm 29, married to dh (36) for almost five years. We have one dd who is 17 months and an absolute delight. I work full time for a local reginal theatre while my dh stays home with dd. He's a carpenter who creates beautiful custom pieces and sometimes travels for work. We have a funky home on two acres with numerous fruit trees, some canyon, hills... etc. Dd was born in a birth center with a MW and this baby, due May 26th, will be born at home. Dd's labor took only four hours and was great... I think I'm one of the few people I've ever met who loved giving birth and don't think of it as this horrible, pain-filled experience. It's one of the reasons I like MDC, my chances of meeting people who had positive birth experiences is much higher!

I'm a bit tapped... so this is all I can give you all now. Not so much the book others have taken the time to write! Looking forward to reading more!
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Anna - I'm more specifically in Fairborn - right next to WPAFB..well, actually its pretty much our backyard! I've lived here all my life.

Slight Vent - I've been talking with a group of ladies for about 3 years...its just a group I started out on when TTC a while ago. Well, on the of the ladies is 37 weeks PG, and has had an EXTREMELY hard pregnancy. She's been on total bedrest since about 20 weeks because she kept having contractions. Well, now she's off bedrest and they are talking induction. That just doesn't make sense to me, and I kind of said that. Now I'm the bad guy because I can't understand why this "uncomfortable" pregnant lady who has been on bedrest forever is going to be induced for her comfort....ARG. Sorry.

I am enjoying getting to "know" everyone here this week too! Great idea!
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I am 28 years old and so is my dh. I am still in college because it took me too many years to finally settle on my major- which is interior design.
I work w/ people w/ disablilities on the weekends. I go to a house where 2 people reside with a companion (live in caregiver). We go out shopping and to the movies and whereever they might want to go. It can be really frustrating sometimes but I like it pretty well.
I live in middle Tennessee (literally) and I have lived here my entire life. I would like to experience living different places but life hasn't taken me that route - yet. I live in a town which used to be small and now has outgrown it's boundaries and has WAY too many people in it. Traffic is worse here than in Nashville.
I met dh when I was 15 and knew he was the"one" at the moment I met him (cheesy I know - but I just was crazy over him ) We began dating when we were 17 and battled it out until we were 26 and decided to get married. By saying battled it out, I mean went through good and bad times breaking up several times - you know all the fun immature ways teenagers date :LOL . I will have to say I am so happy for dh to be in my ife. He really is the greatest person for me. He is very supportive in every aspect of the word.
My hobbies are: playing with photography, learning about architecture, water skiing, going to basketball games with my dad, reading, fishing, being outside. There are many things I enjoy. These are the ones I can think of right now.
The only human child we have is the one incubating currently. I love animals and have several. I have 3 dogs (2 very large dogs which live outside in a very nice doghouse and one little housedog) 2 outside cats, ducks -they live at the pond, a box turtle, and a veiled chameleon. Oh and some aggressive fish.
I guess that wraps it up for me. Sorry it was so long.
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Oh, sweety, I felt the exact same way when I found out I was having a boy. In fact, after we left and were driving home I started crying! I felt so, so horrible!!! A week later I'm so excited to be having a boy, but man, that initial shock and reaction was bad.
I feel like I know exactly how you felt. I cried and cried yesterday. I don't know why either. Was I overjoyed or really disappointed? Maybe it was horomones (which have been getting the best of me lately). I think the baby is healthy. I don't know. The u/s lady was really really really RUDE. At first she said he looked good then she was doing a detailed examination of the heart and we asked if it looked normal compared to the others and I am sure you know what she said "i can't tell you that. You'll have to discuss it with you doctor" So now dh is freaking out again. I thought it was supposed to be a good experience since it hopefully is the only ultrasound we'll be having. I can't think of an experience I have had lately that compares to this. She was mean to us and treated us like we were part of an assembly line. Oh well, it's over now. I must move on.
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"i can't tell you that. You'll have to discuss it with you doctor"
the truth is that an US tech is really not authorized to tell you anything. may be she said it in a rude way and should have been more polite, but by law they cannot tell you anything at all if they are just a tech. If a doctor is doing the US - they can, but a tech cannot.
Sorry to hear your experience was sad. ;( hugs to you mama. I'm sure your baby is in great health.

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Anita, my mom's practice is in Fairborn. Are you going to Miami Valley or Greene Memorial? You said "birth center", which I know there isn't one in Dayton, you must be referring to The Birth Place at MVH? That's quite a drive while you're in labor!

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Anita, my mom's practice is in Fairborn. Are you going to Miami Valley or Greene Memorial? You said "birth center", which I know there isn't one in Dayton, you must be referring to The Birth Place at MVH? That's quite a drive while you're in labor!
Ha! Tell me about it. I could feel every bump in the road. But to me it was worth it. My experience there is wonderful. Its "Family Beginnings" at Miami Valley. I really enjoyed everyone there except the Midwife that did my birth. She was just recently hired on and my midwife asked if it was okay that she "attended" my birth..apparently that meant that she was doing my delivery supervised...I was kind of disappointed, because I wanted my M/W there the whole time - and she was only there when I delivered. All my other coaching stuff came from the other M/W - who I requested leave (so that it was me and DH..I was tactful about it!) Me and the new M/W's personalities kind of clashed a bit, but I didn't let it ruin my experience! So far that is what I'm doing again this year, although my M/W office has changed quite a bit, and I am just now (at 19 weeks) learning about some of the changes. I'm not overly thrilled about that, but I guess I'll deal. I'm soo picky when it comes to the medical community - and their service to me!!

Your mom's "practice?" What does she do? Sorry if you've said so in the past - and I missed it.
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Just subscribing, I'll write my "book" later!
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I think I'm the official old lady of the group here (unless someone older comes along). I'm Hope and I'm 35 but will be 36 on Jan 5. Dh (Greg) just turned 37 last Friday. We've been married 6 years and together for 13.5 years. My dd (Meta - named for my grandmother) will be 2 on New Year's Day. I live in Wisconsin and work for a university. Dh stays home with dd and runs an internet business out of our home. I travel some for my job (mostly to Europe but also some in the US and to Mexico) but won't be travelling any more for at least a year. I coordinate int'l programs for students. I really like my job and I'm ok with the fact that dh is the SAHD instead of me being a SAHM. I get to work 4 days per week and generally have a really flexible schedule so it all works out.

Dd was born exactly 6 weeks early and spent 10 days in the NICU. I pumped from the beginning and got dd to nurse whenever I was home (bottles of ebm when I worked, of course) at 3 weeks old. The NICU doc told me not to worry about nipple confusion as that was a lot of hooey. I believed her because that was easier than questioning. Luckily, my dd is a booby girl. She never got "confused" and although she is now weaned, she would probably go right back to nursing if I offered it to her (we just weaned last month). Unfortunately my cousin didn't have such luck with her dd who had one bottle in the ped ward due to weight loss after birth (pre-eclampsia induction) and that was it. She would not go back to breast even with trying SNS, etc.

Anyhoo, I hope that this bean stays in until at least 36 weeks. I'll even take 40 or 41 weeks. I just want to have the baby and bring it home right away. Dd came early because my water broke so I've been reading about factors that might influence that even though they don't really know why it happens. One factor might be vitamin C so I've been eating oranges and drinking OJ a ton.

This new bean will be born at the hospital like dd. We have a new birth center in town which would be great but my health insurance is an HMO and won't cover it. I also think I would have a difficult time convincing dh that a birth center is safe. But, this is a progressive town so I'm not worried about a hospital birth. They don't rush interventions and my birth with dd was great in spite of her early arrival.

wow, this is turning into a book - sorry! I guess this will be all for now.
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schatz, your job sounds amazing! When I worked my s.o. was the SAHP and I loved it. It's hard to explain to others sometimes, of course they always viewed him as a slacker who refused to work, but it worked out well for our family at the time and I'm glad to see that it works out well for others too.

I'll send sticky baby vibes your way. Hopefully the bean will stay put for a good full term pregnancy. The NICU experience is so hard!
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Wow this was a great idea. I feel like I am getting to know all of you.

I am 23 and DH is 26. We got married in 1998 and had our DD in May of 2002, Looks like we will be having another May baby! I think this one will be a boy but we won't find out for sure until his/her b-day. I am a SAHM and have been for a little over a yar now. Before that I was a receptionist full time. DH is a wonderful man for supporting me while I stay at home with the babies. My intrests right now are interior decorating and cloth diapering. I started CDing dd at 10 months and I alread have an impressive stash for the new little one. Would you believe that just as DD stopped wearing diapers I got knocked up? I am not willing to give up my cloth.

DD was born at our local birth center with my M/W whom I love. The labor was short and the birth was quick but left me with a 4th degree tear which landed me in the hospital 2 days later for 3 or 4 days, after that I was on a strict liquid diet for 3 more weeks which was He**. I was also told that I could not lift DD for 3 months. I was really planning to bf DD but during and after all this I did give up and put her on formula (a decision that I would later regret). I was pretty much dependent on my mom and DH to care for me and the baby. Really there is not a lot I can remember during this time.

So with baby # 2 I will be having him/her at the same BC and will be breathing him/her out to avoid any more tearing. I am planning to bf come he** or high water and look forward to this addition.

Although DD was open to the idea of a new baby last month she recently told me that the baby can not sit next to her in the car nor can he/she share her blankets and pillow and most importantly she is not sharing her dada with them. :LOL
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Hi! This is a great idea--I always think about posting but feel kind of funny just jumping in! It's really nice to get to know you all.

I'm Molly and I'm another "old lady" here-LOL! I'm 35 and will be 36 when this one arrives. This is #4 for us, which I really had to talk DH into, but he's getting more and more excited. I have a dd-Tate that is 7, a dd-Flynn that is 5 and a ds-Leo who will be 3 in February. I'm basically a SAHM (work 1x a week for the company I've been with since college) and have been since Leo was born. I absolutely LOVE being home and my 1 day a week at work seems like too much sometimes! I never thought I'd be a good at-home parent and never wished I was home before, but something clicked in me when ds was born and I just knew I couldn't leave him. I sometimes get twinges of sadness that I wasn't "there" as much for my dd's, but I can't call it regret because it was what was right for me at the time.

Well, #4 is going to be a new experience for me as I hope to have him/her at home! I am so looking forward to it. My previous births were at the hospital with epidurals, and while they were all uneventful "good" births, I am so excited to be doing it this way. I have a great midwife and I'm really excited to have all the kids there with me. Now my biggest fear is that something will go wrong and I'll end up in the hospital anyway. I'm trying to just stay confident and not dwell on the "possibilites".

I've been really sick with morning sickness so far (still am, although I think it's getting better). This has been the worst of all my pregnancies, so maybe I'm just getting old! This is going to be our last child so I'm really trying to savor every moment, but it's so hard to get excited when you can't even keep your lunch down!

OK, enough about me. I really enjoy reading about all of you and I've actually been lurking on MDC for a couple years--just never posted! I'll try to be more active. I really feel most at home here!!!
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Anita, my mom is a midwife. Her practice is Greene Midwifery Care, and they work out of Greene Memorial.

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Bleh. I had my prenatal appt today. I gained 9 pounds! Gasp! I am up to 16 for this pregnancy so far. My blood pressure was awesome, and we heard the heartbeat, the baby is doing good. I had to do a GTT, which gave me a massive headache.

I don't get an ultrasound, since I only get 2 per pregnancy, and he wants to do one at the end of my preg because of how DS was stuck, he just wants to make sure that this baby wont be getting stuck. But, I found out that they wont tell you the sex here anyways. We could go to the next town which is 1.5 hours away and go to a private clinic there, but DH said that we will just be surprised.
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Hi, I'm Brandi and I'm 31 and am 19w5d today! Married to dh Son, 35. We live in hot dusty New Mexico with our two girls- Kaylee is 4.5 and Lexi will be 2 in January. We've got 2 indoor cats and an indoor male Rottweiler- my first baby I'm a sahm, aside from working 4.5 hours a week as a veterinary technician. I'm quitting at the end of January though, as my belly is getting too big already to do some things comfortably.

This is my 4th pregnancy- we lost the first baby via miscarriage. I had high risk pgs with my girls (exposures to things at the vet clinic) and everything turned out fine. This one has been surprisingly "normal" which is quite a change for me. We had 10+ level II ultrasounds with each one of them, and so far have only had 1 with this baby! We also found out on Tuesday that this baby is a boy. I posted a separate thread about it- was just too excited! I was really mainstream with my first dd- didn't know much about AP at all. I bottle fed her, and started cloth diapering when she was 7 mos old. With my 2nd, she was bf till she self-weaned after her 1st bday, and she has been in cloth since the beginning. This baby will be ebf again, and cloth diapered. I bought a sling for this one, too, and I'm hoping to be less sling impaired than last time, :LOL.

Gotta go- going shopping today. I'll add more later if this looks meager compared to the rest, :LOL!

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Hello. I am Gigi and I am the oldest so far... I am 37 and my dh is 38. We have been married for 9 years, together for 15. I have 2 dd's.. Catherine is 4 and Victoria is 2. I am from New orleans, but moved to Atlanta 16 years ago after college graduation.

I am due around 5/20 with baby #3. I have GD with all of my pregnancies. With my 2nd pg and this one, I take insulin at night to keep my morning fasting blood sugars within "range". I am planning and preparing for my 1st natural delivery with this baby. We will not findout the sex of this baby.

I want to do more CD's with this baby.. I used cloth about 20% of the time with my dd's... I have a lot to learn there!!!

I used to work as a retail analyst with TOmmy Hilfiger before becoming a SAHM. Now I am active with LLL and I enjoy scrapbooking.

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Anita, my mom is a midwife. Her practice is Greene Midwifery Care, and they work out of Greene Memorial.
Why does this sound appealing to me?? I think probably just because she's the mom of someone I kind of know! lol. I really like Miami Valley, and it would be hard for me to do an appointment in Fairborn - since I work in Kettering anyway - unless I had all early AM appointments! I actually saw her ad in the phonebook when I was looking for a M/W when PG with Elijah. I choose Midwife Advantage because of their advertisement of accepting most insurances! Maybe if I get PG a 3rd time, I'll go with her though, because I DO NOT plan on working at that time! (still a little frusterated at my current M/W's lack of communication about the changes in their office)



I am still enjoying getting to know you all - It really is kind of hard to jump in the middle of things. I have looked at the Decemer Thread since I had Elijah last December - and although I'm sure all the ladies would have no problem letting me join in, I read through all their threads, and they seem to know each other so well, and it almost seemed like I was reading Greek during some of their posts! lol
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Vanessa - how can your OB figure out if the babe is going to get stuck from an ultrasound? U/s are notorious for being WAY off on weights, babe's position at an u/s is likely to change lots before actual labor, and pelvis measurements are more accurate when done by touch (which is an art, not a science). A thing to remember for stuck babes that I just read in Ina May's Guide to Childbirth - standing and applying pressure to the hips (use two assistants to press on either side), with knees slightly bent can unstick a baby amazingly. It creates more of an opening in the lower portion of the pelvis. Everyone should check out this book - it's great (though I still think that Ina May isn't quite radical enough for me ). I hope though that your babe doesn't get stuck and you can avoid intervention.

Anita - Greene Midwifery Care takes all kinds of insurance too. They're really flexible. I think the nice thing about them is that they're a much smaller practice, so you get the benefit of them really knowing you and you really knowing them. Greene Memorial Hospital is also really small - so small in fact, that they don't even have a nursery, so rooming-in is mandatory! This means that there isn't the factory feel of the larger hospitals, and you're likely to see the same people again and again. Just thought I'd throw that in there. Who do you see at Midwife Advantage? I think they used to be out of Good Samaritan and I went to them for gyno as a teenager. I know most of the midwives in Dayton personally, but that's the life of the daughter of one. Even the midwives that we go to here know my mom and the midwives that taught our birth classes in Columbus knew my mom, as well as all the other midwives that I know, so we can chat about how various folks are doing.

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