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#1 of 31 Old 01-10-2005, 08:06 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I saw the other thread called "who's doing it" and I thought this would be the question.
Then it made me curious.
So, are you ladies having the legendary second trimester hornies, or no?

I am always a hornball, and have been althroughout both PGs. Except maybe not during the 3rd tri... This darned yeast infection has been deterring me from getting any for a little while.. Can't wait until its gone!!!

What about you?
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I'm like up and down. I've been having a lot of constipation lately. I've been doing all I can to control it, but it's not going away completely. So needless to say when I'm constipated I want nothing to do with having sex. But the majority of days, I'm not constipated and I'm like a rabbit, I swear!!! DH thinks it's funny, I even put on the teddy I got for our wedding night!!! With my belly sticking out, it was pretty hillarious. He dug it, of course! So, I'd have to say, yes I've been a hornball, too, as long as I stay regular!!

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I haven't really been a hornball but we've definately been doing it
In fact, we never really stopped. It's been fun !!! While I don't know how, dh seems to find me more attractive now than before.
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Yeah, I am wanting it. But not getting it. Grrrr. Doesn't DH realize he better take advantage while he can? I wanted nothing to do with sex for months after ds was born, but pregnancy is a different story.
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Obvious answer here. Nope, None, Nada. Doctors orders. Try not to even think about it.

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Am I doing it? HA!!!!! HELL YES!!!!! I am such a horndog to begin with, stopping is never an option. I think my hubby is actually getting tired of it.

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I was like that, all my senses were taken to the next level. This was amazing. But it had been gone the past 2 weeks. Where is it??? i want ti back!

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I've gotta giggle at all you hornball May Mammas! Good for you! With 3 kids, being super tired at the end of every night, and DH's awareness and subsequant uneasiness that there really is a baby in there, I am lucky to get spooned when we are curling up to sleep. I'm not complaining though... I haven't had the urge to jump on top of his like a cat in heat for a while.
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UG..I'm so frusterated...send some of that MY WAY!

The answer is NO. Maybe at my appointment tomorrow I'll have my M/W tell me NOT to do it so I'll desire it more! lol (Don't think it works that way..but isn't that how it is, when you CAN'T do it...you want it that much more??)

Poor DH, he's so patient and loving. I barely can bring myself to give him a sympathy day..but I have to once in a while or I got a really frusterated DH on my hands!
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I am feeling it a lot more this trimester
My DH just 's my new "curvy" body, I feel really close to him now too. We have been enjoying this pregnancy a lot!!

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Maybe at my appointment tomorrow I'll have my M/W tell me NOT to do it so I'll desire it more! lol (Don't think it works that way..but isn't that how it is, when you CAN'T do it...you want it that much more??)
This is very true! Because I can't have it, I dream it!! I gotta get this outta my head! UGH! Now if it was ok, I am sure I would not want it. Such is life, wanting the forbiden fruit!

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Cristina - I KNEW that was how you was feeling. Its kind of like sex in someone elses house...or something weird like that. Something about the "naughty" of it that is appealing. Hopefully your Dr's orders don't include the ones you can't control..I know I've had dreams and had the big O before!
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We are not doing it, though I want to! All The Time. Husband is not interested, though
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Oh heck ya! This is usually my first pregnancy symptom. Dh has even told me with dd and this time that I want it TOO MUCH. Now I'm taking a medicine that curbs my desire A LOT, so it's not been too often and getting less. But before this medicine it was quite frequently. More than before I got pregnant.

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Hey everyone, I'm due, allegedly, in the last week of April but since this is my first pg I'm betting I actually deliver in May, so might as well hang out ;-)

I've always been a hornball and DH and I enjoyed more fun and frequent relations until I had a week long spotting episode in October a couple days after we had sex. It Freaked-Me-Out. So much that we haven't had sex since. I tried for the whole "everything except actual penetration" concept, but he isn't really into it and I just don't enjoy orgasms now- my uterus gets all tight and now that it's even bigger, it hurts that much more and freaks me out. So even when I'm really horny, like the past few days, just the thought of how an orgasm makes me contract is enough to chase the feeling away :-(

I'm okay with it now, I'll just start the engines back up when baby is full term to get labor moving along ;-)

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Uh, not much. I had much more energy in the 2nd tri with my other pg's and now I'm just plain tired all the time- all I want is a backrub and to go to sleep! Plus, my sciatica is back and it makes any position really uncomfortable I'm hoping my libido comes back and that my back stops hurting constantly, for dh's sake. He's really patient, but I know he's wishing for some

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I just don't enjoy orgasms now- my uterus gets all tight and now that it's even bigger, it hurts that much more and freaks me out
That happened to me last night! I couldn't believe the feeling! I had read that the big O can cause braxton Hicks, so I just went with it. I actually thought it was pretty cool cause I could feel my entire uterus when I palpated my belly.

Kayleezoo-- I'm having the worst Sciatica, too. It drives me insane! I can't sit on the couch in a comfortable position. I've now moved one of our wooden kitchen chairs out into the living room for me to sit in while we are all out there. It sucks. I want so bad to cuddle up to DH on the couch and watch a movie...

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I am with you Desa. between the three kids and these dumb twelve hour shifts, sleep is so much more appealing that the big o. When we went to the ob specialist he kept repeating to my hubby that we were not to have sex (any kind) after thirty weeks (history of prom) he said it over and over again until my husband informed him he had already been pretty much cut off, already. I give in maybe once a week or every two weeks just for sympathy. but if I go to full term I bet I can rev it up
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Totally not iinterested! *shrug*
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Ok you not interested mamas, can you pass that on to me!!!!!! I keep dreaming of intimacy!!!! It is driving me nuts. I am on Dr orders, due to spotting & "possible" placenta aburption, not to have sex & I dream it! It is driving me crazy! So lets switch! I will take your not interested & you can have my drive.
I do not want to dream, because the last two times I spotted, I had a sex dream the night before. Freaky!

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Definetely still dtd as often if not more than ever. Haven't gone more than one month w/o sex ever since high school and that was after giving birth! I do miss being able to lay on my back though.
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I should have come here first. I posted this on the main pg board. Funny enough I was hornier the 1st trimester, even with m/s. LAst pg I was a horndog int he 2nd trimester, but now not much, but I think it has to do with the PAIN I feel when we do. For example, this am I got the most painful contraction after and then had horrible stinging pain when peeing and extremely swollen netherregion. Any advice?

I told my dh and he said, "Well, I guess that's it for us, huh?" It was said sympathetically as in "I wouldn't blame you for not wanting to anymore with that going on." I hope this isn't the case since I know what is in store when the baby actually gets here.
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coleslaw, we've been having the same problem. No pain during, but afterwards I feel pain. No contractions. But if I pee it burns. If I shower right away it stings. I keep forgetting to ask my mw about it, but it HURTS!!!!!!!!!!!!

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OMG! :

I was going to start a thread just like this one....I dont know whats going and I didnt experience this with my first two (albeit different father), but my hormone level must be at the maximum level and raging because I can't get enough and DH is loving it! He said the other day he wished the second semester hormone level could apply all the time, post partum included. He told a friend he was holding on for the ride, literally. :

I have to say I am loving it as well but wowsers I never saw it coming! Our activity level has been so rampant that it has spawned a yeast infection which has put the damper on things lately...but holy smokes...I had no idea the second trimester could do this.

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I'm one of the ones who is just not too interested. I don't know what it is. : It's kind of frustrating not being interested.

I was very interested back in the first trimester, but then had placenta previa and wasn't supposed to. Now that's cleared up, I'm just eh..... Do try to muster up some interest for dp, but I could really care less. I'd just like to gestate.

That and I've been kind of itchy down there, since the last time we did. Don't really want to go tell the doctor and have icky antibiotics. Any advice?
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Weirdly and oddly...but then again, DH and I are weird and odd people.

We have not been doing it as much as we both wanted to. I have had terrible m/s, and in fact, the longest I've gone between actual upchucks has been 12 days (last week), and I'm at 22 weeks now. So for about the past 20 weeks, anything that felt even remotely up and down made me seasick! :Puke So we'd try for once every ten days or so for sympathy, and to give each of us a little relief (poor DH did some serious work!).

But with DS, my second trimester wasn't that hormonally beneficial - with him, my m/s cleared right up so we could get back into the swing of things, but it wasn't special.

Oddly enough, earlier in 2004 when I miscarried, I discovered that I have a bit of a b-vitamin deficiency--B supplements get me revved up (and DS also started weaning). But this past summer I discovered a randier me and hubby and I both loved it. Which resulted in this pregnancy. :LOL

Now that the hurling isn't so frequent (up to 3 times a day for a few weeks on end), and the nausea is subsiding, and the acid reflux seems to be getting down into a manageable level, all we have to really deal with now is, like an OP mentioned, regularity, and the fact that Twoey is a low rider, and sits right on the topside of my cervix, which makes things veddy uncomfortable unless we switch positions a lot. Which I don't mind, but it really makes you have to be flexible in getting into a groove.
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Eaglevoice, I was thinking about getting a teddy, like one of those with the open belly. Was wondering if I put on one if it would still be tight around the belly. Good to know someone else has tried, maybe I'll get up the balls. SO would like that.
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Yup, I'm usually a horndog to, but not as much since i've been pregnant though still enjoying it. When I was pregnant with ds I started to bleed after sex around 20 weeks, i'm 24 now and luckily it hasn't happened yet still makes me a bit nervous though.
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Yeah, I am wanting it. But not getting it. Grrrr.
Me, too. DH's work schedule has been crazy and we have hardly seen each other lately. When we do see each other, we're both too tired. Plus he has been sick.

But I've had some wild dreams...

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Forget it. We normally have a great sex life but i am so uncomfortable I can't even think about intercourse. I have gigantic varicose veins in my vulva and legs. They HURT. I can't imagine being touched there. I also have sciatica and generally feel tired all the time lately. So I'm not much fun.

I try to "help" DH out as much as I can though.
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