All of our family is out of town, but mine is all within driving distance. My mom will be coming for the birth, to care for ds. She will stay for only a day or two, then leave us to be as a family while DH is off of work for a week. Then she is coming back--yay! to help cook, clean, and help with my 3 year old. She was so awesome when my first was born.
Anyway, MIL is wanting to come in May, so within a couple of weeks of the birth, just like last time. She was no help last time. She is sweet, and not demanding, but is not one to just offer to do things, or do the dishes or sweep the floor on her own initiative. She is a "guest", not family coming to help. And I don't feel comfortable being half naked around her while baby is learning to nurse. Or just because I just had a baby and just don't feel like getting dressed, dammit! So last time I felt trapped in my own house half the time.
And this time, she asked DH when she could come, and DH told her to talk to me! I am so irritated at him. We have had several discussions during this pregnancy, about who was helpful last time and who wasn't, and how I did not want his mom and grandmom here for at least 4 weeks after the birth. Why he could not just say that to her, I don't know. His excuse is, she needs dates so she can get plane tickets. But I think for a domestic flight, 4-6 weeks after the baby is born should be plenty of time to get a flight!
MIL is really the only one I have to think about. My siblings will all visit, but not until a couple of months have gone by, especially my sister with kids.
So, when are you planning to have people come and visit?