Softmama, I'm sorry you have had such a rotten day/week. If you have had a good relationship with and liked your therapist up till now, please contact her and tell her exactly how her comments made you feel. A therapist's job is NOT to tell you what to do, and especially not to encourage you to go against your central beliefs.
Having said that, my therapist (who is awesome and an AP mom herself) will sometimes suggest things just to see how I feel about them. When I've said in the past that I needed to exercise more, she's asked, "Would you be willing to leave your daughter in the daycare at the gym?" I told her "no" and why. Then a few months later when I was talking about exercise again, she brought it back up and asked if still felt the same way. I might have construed it to mean she was pushing me to do that, but I knew she was just putting the option out there as something to consider and not something she thought I should definitely do. Could it be that our therapist is just asking you to consider something, but not really thinking you SHOULD do it? It's hard to know without having been in your session how adamant she was being. But the bottom line is that if you felt uncomfortable, you should communicate that to her, and if you don't feel like you get the resolution you want or it continues, you should find a new therapist.
Regarding Dr. Sears, it sounds from your post like your therapist's comments were inappropriate. Had she actually read the book or was she just denouncing Dr. Sears overall? Now I adore Dr. Sears and believe he is a wonderful man to whom the AP movement owes a lot of thanks...BUT not everything he has written has worked for us. I have a spirited DD and for whatever reasons, discipline is a very hard thing with her. I read the "Discipline Book" hoping it would solve our problems, but I just had to laugh at some of the absurd suggestions in there that would NEVER work with my spirited DD. There is a lot of good info in there, espeically if you have a mild-mannered child, but I wasn't too thrilled with the book overall, for our situation.
About the pacifiers, your husband's comment was not only rude, but uninformed. I have tons of mom friends, some who've used pacifiers, some who have not. I know a woman who didn't use a pacifier and got her period back at 3 months post-partum! I know moms who did use pacifiers sometimes and got their periods back over a year post-partum. There is just a HUGE variety of how long it takes before you get your period back post-partum. Breastfeeding, especially night feeding, CAN suppress menstruation in many women, but it certainly doesn't in all women! Don't forget to take extra precautions with birth control if you aren't TTC again yet.
I actually got my first post-partum period on my BIRTHDAY, of all cruel jokes! :LOL
I hope you can call your therapist soon and talk about the last session. Hugs to you, hope your weekend is better.