I know where you're coming from. I have a 2yo and a 3.75yo and am 5 months pregnant, and depression has been a problem this entire pregnancy. It sounds like you may be dealing with depression too - have you mentioned it to your midwife or OB? They may be able to steer you towards some helpful resources. I'm taking St John's Wort, and thankfully that's beginning to help.
A, wife to R, mom to 3 boys and welcoming a baby girl in May 2015
Prepartum depression is not unusual. I would talk to your OB because the thoughts you are having should be addressed. It's okay, and it's not your fault. Try and get in with a therapist or talk to your doctor very very soon. You CAN feel much better than this.
Mom to two beautiful boys, now in school to be a therapist and help other women with PPD.
Do you feel like you wouldn't take an anti-depressant even if your doctor or midwife said it was totally safe while pregnant and breastfeeding? I was surprised when my doctor told me there were many options that are safe, as I'd thought they weren't (I'm sure some are not ok, but I was relieved that I wasn't going to have to just "hang on" for the next year and a half or so.)
I was also pleased to talk to many women here who recommended quite a few supplements and vitamins that have really helped them -- B complex vitamins, Omega 3's, fish oil, Vitamin D were some that were consistently mentioned. I know you might not feel like picking up the phone, but if you're seeing a midwife, she should be able to point you in the right direction. Even just reading through the threads here should be helpful -- I got some great help that way.
Hang in there ... I know this can be pretty tough. There are a lot of us out here going through the same thing, so please come back if you need anything -- even just a place to vent!
I am thinking zoloft is the safest to take while pg and bfing.
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Thanks for the advice and support. I will definately start taking some B-complex and I just (this week) started cod liver oil more consistently. I haven't been depressed in the past 10 years, but I was diagnosed with it as a teenager... Might look into homeopathy too (I'm thinking Nat Mur or Pulsatilla maybe?).
I can recommend Shaila Misri's book Pregnancy Blues, which explains how common depression in pregnancy is, evaluates the pros and cons of different treatment options, and gives lots of case studies. I was a patient of Dr Misri's and can speak for her knowledge and compassion. What I like about her approach, personally speaking, is her research on what happens to the unborn child (and later development of the child) when depression in the mother is not treated. Whatever you decide, perhaps knowing the medical facts will be empowering! Good luck with your journey.
Happy to be a mommy and teacher to D , born 1-17-06 via and A , born 10-6-08 with a
I only just admitted to my DH what was going on and I'm exploring my options. I would love for this to just be a hormone-soup thing that I can remedy with some acupuncture, vitamins, and herbs... I'm petrified that it will get worse after the baby is born and turn into post-partum psychosis or something - that's probably my biggest fear of all. I had mild ppd with ds1 and nothing with ds2, though I always was afraid of it since I have a family history of depression and anxiety (mom, grandma, brother).
I'd love to hear from other pregnant mamas dealing with this so I don't feel alone and freakish. I loved being pregnant in my other two pregnancies - now I just want it done with
"So let us be loving, hopeful and optimistic. And we’ll change the world." - Jack Layton
Here's a discussion from a while back on the same subject
Treatment is going to be similar to PPD there are just some antidepressants they will prescribe postpartum that they may be more conservative with in pregnancy.
I got through my second pregnancy without an issue with a whole combination of strategies -- taking care of myself generally speaking was the core of all of it.
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This time I have felt pretty darn good after I started taking Floradix. It has iron and B vitamins along with herbs and a bunch of other good stuff. It really helps my energy level and my mood. I don't know if the Floradix made the difference or if the two losses I suffered last year helped my perspective.
Mama to DS(7), DS(4), DD(1) and #4 due 8/2014!
If you can afford it, I highly suggest giving the kids a daddy-day or grandparent-day or something and going to get your nails done or have your hair cut or get a massage. It will definitely help you feel better about yourself. Hell, go out to a nice dinner with dh after that. It can definitely brighten your day.
You are not alone and I hope you feel better soon
I am 32 weeks and most of my pregnancy have had terrible thoughts (my DH will leave me, or turn into some super prick). I hoped a lot my DS would die so I wouldn't have to be a mom.. horrible dark thoughts.. . I have spent more nights then I can count crying in the bathroom while 'taking a shower' just so I could get out the pain and feelings of unexplained loss without having to explain to my DH for the hundredth time why I am upset. he does.not.geti.it.
I feel joyless and alone..
DS1 Dec 2009 DZ Twins July 2012
I am definately not a danger to myself or others, but I am not sure that I will ever be able to do this again. Its sad to think that depression will keep me from having another child.
I plan on going on a small small dosage of Zoloft after the baby is born...it seems Effexor is particularly dangerous in pregnancy.
today I was contacted by a doula in another area (I have been trying to find one here) and she said "instead of a doula why don't you just have a close friend come to support you for the birth" and I had to admit "well, I don't have any friends here"
I am really scared about PP. I feel like my DH is 110% clueless how hard this is and I feel totally on my own- because I am. I have no idea how we are going to do this without family help.. just the idea of holding a baby is terrifying to me.
DS1 Dec 2009 DZ Twins July 2012
Im having a rough time as my DD approaches. I am scared and feeling isolated and very alone. I am dreading christmas to the point of tears (not kidding) and some days I want nothing more then to just go lay in the middle of the road .. I am terribly terribly down on myself.
Is there anything I can take OTC which is BF friendly to help combat this before I deliver? Im not sure I can survive PP without some sort of help.
DS1 Dec 2009 DZ Twins July 2012
I'll be back with ideas tomorrow, can't type tonight.
((())) I hope you're feeling better soon. There are antidepressants that are used during pregnancy and breastfeeding.
Various essential oils can help- jasmine, in particular, is helping me.
BUT, if you're on more than one crying jag a day for a week, in my book that's time to see a doctor. If you find yourself thinking that the only reason you can't kill yourself is because it wouldn't be fair to kill the baby before it's born, that really IS time for change.
I'm on day 1 of prodromal labour and bizarrely, my mood is much better now.
I am struggling right now too. Time to go back to a pdoc and have my meds adjusted.
Me + Dh = Dd1(9.5 yrs) + Dd2(7 yrs) and Ds(4.5 yrs)