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#151 of 164 Old 12-11-2009, 02:18 PM
 
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Thinking of you and your little guy. Hoping all is ok.
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How do you know the overnight "went very well" ? Do you believe what this guy is telling you? It's quite obvious that either your X or his mom sent that email. Who else even knows about CPS being involved? Whether or not the caseworker thinks it's ridiculous, it doesn't look great for court mama.
I know the overnight went well based on how my baby was doing when he got home. The first time he was away overnight, the instant he got home he clung to me for 2days straight - wouldn't even sleep unless I was right next to him. This last time though, he greeted me and went straight for his toys - happy as could be. He wasn't as clingy, although he was eager to nurse, and he let me do things out of his sight - although he sticks pretty close to me anyway.

The second CPS report actually goes in my favor in court - the state of NY absolutely HATES getting false reports, and when CPS is used as a form of harassment the courts get ticked off. The state is actually in the process of turning false reporting by abusers into a felony with real prison time. xBF will not likely be on the receiving end of all this, but if he keeps it up it might come back to bite him. Keep in mind that we're both law students - so this could very well come up on the character and fitness part of the bar for him, and lying to a government agency doesn't look too good for him.
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I've been in a situation like this so I just wanted to tell you to hang in there.

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Quick update:

I applied for an apartment today, keep your fingers crossed that I get it!! I'm SO hoping I get it - its in the PERFECT part of town, right by a park, and its easy to get to school, and into the city. I'm also nearby friends, and easy to get to. I really hope I get it, its small but I loved it. It's a little expensive, but my parents will help me out with the incidentals until I'm done with school. It will be my first every apartment all by myself - and I can't wait to move in!

Also, visitation has been going smoothly. xBF has been showing up almost on time every time (yes, I'm documenting). We are going for every other weekend (Friday night - Sunday morning at first) and 2 afternoon's/week. I'm not excited about 2nights away from me, but I think it will be ok. This little man is very attached to nursing, and I don't think we're in any danger of him weaning. Also, I want to be viewed as the cooperative parent, and I really don't want xBF to be out of my baby's life - xBF really does love him, and baby needs a daddy who loves him. Baby also deserves a relationship with his daddy, even if I really don't like him.

Keep thinking positive thoughts please, and keep praying if you pray. We go to our first hearing next week, and I'm really scared xBF is going to get full custody (I will contest it if he does, and I don't think he will - but I'm still scared)
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wishing you the best of luck at your hearing!

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We had court today. It went GREAT!!!!!

I'm thrilled, really. My ex has a good visitation schedule, which I really wanted (he's a good dad, and loves his baby and I want him to stay involved), but baby is moving with me into a new apartment!!!!! I'm so thrilled, I really can't stand it.

Thanks for all the support, thoughts and prayers - it really helped me stay calm today when things were rough.
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SO happy to read things are going well for you! I have been praying for you for a long long time. This must mean so much to you!

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Great news!
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YAY!!!


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so great to read your update

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What a great update! You stayed so strong through this and it's wonderful to hear the good news!
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We had court today. It went GREAT!!!!!

I'm thrilled, really. My ex has a good visitation schedule, which I really wanted (he's a good dad, and loves his baby and I want him to stay involved), but baby is moving with me into a new apartment!!!!! I'm so thrilled, I really can't stand it.

Thanks for all the support, thoughts and prayers - it really helped me stay calm today when things were rough.
OMG YAY! So happy for you.

/sorry that I bumped an old post, but I started to follow this before I went MIA. So happy to come back and see an update..actually a GREAT update.

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