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I had both my girls at home, in water, peacefully and beautifully. Yes, it made them calmer - my second didn't make a peep for months! (Well, I'm exaggerating, but she was a very very calm baby... until she became colicky!).
But, no, unfortunately my lovely birthing experiences did not affect my ppd whatsoever. I have a severe case of PPD after my first. And I really did have fantastic births... calm, pretty quick, babies took to the breast easily... In my case though, I had no or very little milk - and even after months and months of trying to increase supply, I was never able to bf exclusively... And for me that played a huge role in my stress level - I was super stressed about not bf'ing... But, it's kind of a question of what came first: the ppd or the bf'ing trouble? I suspect the hormonal stuff after giving birth, far more than bf's problems or a bad birthing experience, plays a much bigger role in PPD. So, what I'm saying is that even if I had had the perfect bf'ing experience, I may still very well have had the severe PPD... and same for having the perfect birth experience...
In terms of trying to prepare yourself and take every precaution you possibly can in anticipation of having a second or third baby, I would say, do what you feel would support you the most. I'm expecting my third and yes, I was very scared after my first... But, by the time my second came I had a good psychiatrist, I had resolved to use the medicines that the western world offers to help myself enjoy my baby and my life as a mother, I had a good counselor, and I was very committed to looking after myself. Did it go smoothly?? Well, no... Life's not like that now, is it! But it was much much better than after my first. Because I already knew what to watch out for and how to address at least some of the things that were coming up (like, taking time to myself, trusting my husband more with the baby, letting go on nursing exclusively when it became clear that I could not)... I was still stressed at times, nursing was better this time but far from easy or smooth or lovely. And I had a 17 month old to look after in addition to a colicky newborn.
And now, as I get closer to having my third, I'm making the same kinds of plans, and anticipating some troubles, too, and trusting that things will work out. With every experience we all gain new wisdom, so trusting that is important, I think.
I hope this is helpful and please send me a private message or post here if you have any questions!
Best of luck,
Agnieszka wife to Kevin, Kalina (Jan 7, 2005), Tosia (June 4, 2006) , and baby Emmett (Dec 27, 2009)