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#1 of 5 Old 02-24-2010, 12:32 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Still no real change, it was better for a while on the zyprexa/in the partial hospitalization program, doesn't seem to be getting any better now, in fact seems to be getting worse, she's well up there in the "theraputic" doses of all the things that the Dr's have told her to take, but no real change.

It sucks, good days are bearable, bad days are awful, I've got no idea what else to do, I have to say, the days when my wife begs me to leave her and take our son to England I'm rather more tempted to do so now... it's been about a year since she started any treatment, and it's had a few good moments, but now doesn't seem to be going anywhere.

I hope others don't have this issue, PPD/Bipolar/Depression/Whatever this is REALLY SUCKS.

The Dr wants her to start Remeron, but she's more back to the days of reading every negative that she can find, and deciding that's how it's going to be for her, and, honestly, right now I can't blame her.
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What she needs now more than anything is your support. you are a brave man for being with your wife through this hard time. please do not give up

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What she needs now more than anything is your support. you are a brave man for being with your wife through this hard time. please do not give up
And she gets that...

While I vent here, I am, pretty much, always supportive of my wife.

There are occasions where I will say "I just don't know how to help with that, other than by being here" but I don't say I'm going to leave or anything like that, nor would I really.. there are just moments.

Last two days the sleep has returned, possibly aided by the latest new drug (Remeron) although, my wife feels like it's also been accompanied by a racing heart first thing in the morning as she wakes, which unfortunately feels like we're going backwards, next it'll be the head shaky feeling.

I just hope that this can stabilize somewhere, because it still sucks right now, and doesn't feel like it's ever going to stop just being a complete mess of trying different combination's of things to attempt to get some sort of stability. Add to this my wife is now starting to panic that State Disability runs out in August... we'll have to see.
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I'm sorry to hear that things are so rough.

I think the time may be coming where you need to focus on your son and keeping yourself healthy. I'm not saying that you should leave, abandon, or quit helping your wife. Your wife is getting medical care, and it sounds like you're doing a lot to help her. Realizing that you can't make things better is hard. It's very hard to see the people you love suffering.

What kind of support network do you have? What kind of care is your son receiving? When do you get a break? Right now you have two very needy people relying on you (an infant child and a severely ill wife) -- and that's stressful. If you don't have a personal support network to help, I'd ask your wife's doctors for recommendations for families of people with mental illness. Does the hospital have resources?

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I haven't checked here in a while, I'm so sorry to hear that little progress has been made. I know that this is such a hard journey. You have to remember, though, that even though this has been going on for a year, she has not been *consistent* with meds for very long at all. It seems they are changing her all the time, with setbacks every time something is changed. So... the longer she is stable on something, the better she will be.

I'm so sorry that fatherhood has brought such challenges for you. We never know what we are going to get when we have children. It's never really what we thought it would be, anyway.

I hope you are taking care of yourself, and getting the support you need.

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