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#1 of 3 Old 05-13-2013, 10:30 PM - Thread Starter
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Dear Mamas: I am 2 months pp after my second baby. and my second homebirth. 


All went well. Baby is healthy. I am doing ok. I have a history of depression and anger issues are up a lot, pp. My husband and I hired a therapist who is able to come to our home weekly. She is great. But sadly, I think my marriage is not going to survive this second pp experience. My husband suffers depression as well. Our sessions mostly revolve around him and helping him. So ironic that I am post partum, and the therapist trained in ppd, has not given me much attention in the month we are seeing her. It is not her fault. It is that my husband's depression seems to take precedence over mine! I am sad. I don't see us making it through this. We have almost no family support. I am 40. I have a great circle of like minded mama friends. I know I can make it as a single mama. I will survive and thrive and offer my children a beautiful life. 

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Im sorry you are going through this. She must see it as important as he is the focus. Maybe seeing her seperatly would be more helpful.

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I really like LLQ's idea about individual counseling.  Maybe a combination of individual (for BOTH of you) and couple counseling would help you work through your issues, him work through his and leave the couple counseling to take care of the marital issues.  


Sorry you are dealing with this, CalmCenter.  PPD is so hard and I wish your DH was available to help you through.  ((HUGS))

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