I'm brand new to this site and wanted to share my story and above all ..find support.
My 4 month old son has been a tough guy from the beginning. When he was born he was in the NICU for low blood sugars. After that was addressed he has had severe tummy problems. He is almost always crying and unhappy, mainly because of the pain he's in for his tummy. He's tummy is always rumbling and he's been on many different medications at different doses. Then when the right combination of meds work he then gets severely constipated, so it's been a battle. I've tried all sorts of different things in my diet (I breast feed) and nothing works. So today I've been doing soy formula for him all day. I hate it because I love breast feeding. I feel like I'm less of a mom. Not to mention all through pregnancy and beyond, breast feeding is jammed down your throat by everyone. Formula is almost always frowned upon.
With that being said. This has taken a huge toll on me. I had depression and anxiety issues before my son was born and now my symptoms are even worse than before. My doctor has increased my medications, but nothing helps. My son is also not a sleeper. He only sleeps about 6 hours out of 24, so this is hard. So not only am I dealing with a sick baby that never sleeps, my mental illness with depression and anxiety but I feel like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders. My husband works 12 hour shifts 4 days a week so I'm responsible for the upkeep of the house. I don't really have anyone to take my son for babysitting, so it's pretty much just me and my husband (when he can). I'm so overwhelmed, stressed and I'm literally sitting at a coffee shop writing this...not even wanting to go back home because I know my baby will be crying (my husband is watching him), there will be a 101 chores to do and the anxiety will be sky high. I just don't know what to do and would really love some support of anyone is available.
First of all, welcome! and *hugs*
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now, especially with baby being in pain so much. It will get better and it will get easier! You are doing a lot for your baby just by being there with him when he's in pain, but also with all of the effort you're putting in to keep breastfeeding him (it is definitely not easy, even when baby isn't in pain, in my experience anyway) and changing your diet and trying what you can to make it better you shouldn't feel bad AT ALL about feeding him formula if that is what is going to work better for all of you in the big picture. I agree that people are REALLY excited about breastfeeding and do get really pushy, but those people aren't looking at the big picture and certainly aren't talking about your circumstances.
Are there more friends or family that you can call in to help out? When I was going through the thick of my postpartum anxiety (when DS was about 7 months) I had already had all the helpers long since gone and moved on, but I started calling people to come back in so I could try to get rest and just take care of myself and it really helped.
My son has had a really bad week with more stomach issues and tons of crying. He saw his dr and we were able to finally get an appointment with a specialist this coming week.
I wish there was something...anything to take away my son's pain.
Big hugs and I hope you get answers for your little son`s stomach issues.
The first few weeks my son was constantly fussy unless I was holding/nursing him. Granted he wasn`t in pain but it still was very difficult. I cannot imagine having to watch your little baby suffer so much.
With all of that going on you really don`t need to feel guilty about formula if that is what soothes him. However, it sounds like even with the soy formula he is still in pain. A lot of babies who react to milk protein also react to soy so that may not be a good fit for him.
Please, visit the allergy forums here on mothering. Those mothers can offer you a wealth of information and support. I will try to send the link. How are his poops? Are they watery? Do they have blood/mucus in them? Do you have an oversupply or overactive letdown? How is his weight gain?
Sorry for so many questions. I am just trying to brainstorm here with you.
Sorry, my thoughts aren`t so organized. I`m dealing with moderate to severe depression lately and my brain is foggy.
Came back to edit and add and link. Hope it works http://www.mothering.com/community/f/307/allergies
His poops were normal before starting his medication. Now he poops once every day, and it's like a thick dierreah. With my doctors advice, I give him a mix of 20 ml boiling water, 5 ml corn syrup and 50 ml prune juice every day. If I don't, he doesn't poop for about 3 days!
His poop has never had blood in it.
My letdown is normal. His weight gain is good. Almost 16 pounds at just over 4 months. He's in the 90th percentile for height.
Thank you again so much for your help. He has his first paediatrician appointment tomorrow morning. Fingers crossed I get some answers. The last week has been very difficult. My son is still in so much pain, even with the doctor tripling his medication dose.
I don`t have much time to write right now but I thought I`d send you a helpful link about infant poops. It is my understanding that breastfed infants can go up to a week without a bowel movement and it`s still not considered constipation unless they are in obvious pain. I`m not sure if this applies at all just food for though.
I`ll be back,
Hope you get some answers from the doctor.