That's a tougher one.
I think the answer is a different for everyone,
but there are certainly some themes:
Eat better food
Alone time or Friend time
Supplements and/or Prescription meds
What do you feel you need the most?
The first thing that popped into my head: Take a dance class.
That would meet a lot of my
needs right now.
It would mean someone else was watching my kids, I was out of the house in a new setting, around other adults, learning something new and fun, and getting exercise. It would be built into my week so I had something to look forward to.
If that wouldn't be for you, ride a bike to do a couple of errands alone- say, every Saturday morning.
Or call a friend and go for a walk- in nature or with a nice destination in mind. An ice cream shop? Coffee shop? Poetry reading? To browse magazines in a book store?
What I tend to need is a break from the same-old same-old of daily life with small children, and physical activity and a food treat make it all the better.
How about you?
By the time DD was two, I had spent nearly three years living in a very rural place with no car and no friends. None.
One day while talking with someone at the local parent-child center and I decided to volunteer to facilitate a playgroup meant to support new breastfeeding moms. (I had some training on the subject, as well as the 2 years of experience
) It meant scheduling things in the morning so I could use my DH's car while he slept (late shift job.)
After a while, moms started showing up, and many of them became my friends. The group waxes and wanes, but for the past year, we've had about nine regulars that come every week, and we've become a great support group for each other. Now we have extra playdates outdoors, occasional potluck brunches with our DPs in tow on weekends, and once a month on a Friday, we go out MOMS ONLY to a bar!!
Could you tell us more about the challenges in your life?
What climate are you in? Has spring sprung yet?
What has helped you in the past?
How much help can you get with childcare?
These are tough years to get through, aren't they?