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#1 of 11 Old 06-10-2008, 03:09 PM - Thread Starter
 
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As a single mother with no family nearby (and a mostly crappy family anyway),
very few friends, and very liitle money I can't help thinking my daughter would
be better off without me and she went to live with her Uncle Jim. I look at her
and love her so much but I don't see how we are going to live once my savings
runs out.
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Hang in there, things will turn around. And remember there is no better person on earth for a child than a parent who loves her.
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I don't know you, and I don't know your situation, but I agree with the other poster. Being a single parent is hard. So hard. But you will find a way to make it work. ((((HUGS)))) I know it's hard.
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I would put my children in daycare and get a job before I gave them up. Wanting to be with our children all the time is normal but staying at home isn't an option for many single mothers.
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I would put my children in daycare and get a job before I gave them up. Wanting to be with our children all the time is normal but staying at home isn't an option for many single mothers.
What are you talking about? There is nothing in my post about staying home or putting her in daycare. What kind of support is this??
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What are you talking about? There is nothing in my post about staying home or putting her in daycare. What kind of support is this??
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As a single mother with no family nearby (and a mostly crappy family anyway),
very few friends, and very liitle money I can't help thinking my daughter would
be better off without me and she went to live with her Uncle Jim. I look at her
and love her so much but I don't see how we are going to live once my savings
runs out.
No family. No close friends. Very little money and living off of savings. And you mention how you worry she would be better with someone else because you don't see how you will provide for her once the savings is gone.

I was responding to what you wrote. With suggestions. I'm sorry you are hurting.
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I know it is hard to be without family support and feel cut-off!

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Oh mama I hear your pain, and I totally understand what you are feeling. I'm sorry things are so tough. I know me saying that doesn't change your situation, but I couldn't not respond. Just know that no matter what, your daughter knows you love her and are doing the best you can right now, even if YOU don't feel like it is your best.

So, is she in daycare? What is your current situation? I'm single now too, but that happened when Ds2 was about 9mo.

Do you have insurance or public assistance? I'm asking because perhaps antidepressants may benefit you, thats just me hearing the extent of your pain though, not sure how you feel about meds.

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Are you okay mama? Big hugs!

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Are you okay mama? Big hugs!
I'm here, I'm feeling a bit better. I've decided to go back to work 2 days a week but I am still horribly sad about leaving my LO at daycare all day We went to visit the daycare lady today and I really like her and her place but as soon as she picked up River to hold her she started screaming and wouldn't stop until I took her and calmed her down...so now I am nervous she will be like that all day when I go back and I won't be able to handle that...thinking she's crying for me all day. I just feel that a 3 month old should be with mom all day and not being with mom is not something she should have to get used to until she's older. Oh well, at least I will try and go back and see what happens.

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Daycare is my biggest anxiety, I must admit, for the same reasons you listed...BUT, I think it would help if when you feel those feelings of guilt coming up, like your daughter is crying for you and you can't hold her, just say in your mind "I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!" over and over and over. Sometimes apologizing to them in my mind helps too, just saying to them/myself "I'm sorry that this is difficult, I really love you and I am doing my best."

And give yourself time too.

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