I have a sensitive subject to discuss with my almost 3yr olds' montessori guide and need outside opinion
she repeatedly uses harsh tones and says unkind things to him and other children. example: " hurry up and hang up you coat your mother cannot wait for you" and to an older child "i have told you how to spell that word already, i am not going to tell you again"
I arranged a meeting to discuss his districability in the classroom, and it turned into a lecture about my parenting style, and that if I dont' make him put away one toy before gettign out the next, he won't inprove in teh classroom ,
I said that I generally do that, although sometimes I felt that I was being was too strict, and she said that i must not be making him clean up because oterwise he wouldn't go from one thing to the next in the classroom.
A gentle reminder would generally suffice for him, when i used an example of me being to harsh on him and the resulting erratic behavior because he was frustrated, she began lecturing me on my parenting!!!!! I was trying to give an example of how when she comes down on him for everything, he balks.
At parent night ( i did not see the arm grabbing) my husband said she grabbed his arm because he got out the sweing activity that he had not been given a lesson on!!!!!!!!!!
I am trying to think of a way to bring this up without causing too much of a problem, I'm not sure how recpetive she will be. The owner of the school is not receptive at all. She has repeatedly mentiond my young age ( 24) and I do know that I am at the fourth plane of development, but that does not mean that I am not a competant parent, I think I try to learn more than many parents who are ten years older than me.
The teacher has been sick , and we sent her a care package with herbs and tea for colds ect. maybe she is just too stressed,maybe if someone shows her kindness she will feel better and be kinder to the children, but it is not cool to always s be harsh with the children, especially after telling me that saying "no" was not a good thing to do.
She accidentally gave him a cupcake yesterday ( he is allergic to several foods and has his own treats) then called me, but did not give him benadryll, ( this is the third time, once he snuck one and once a child gave him some of her cookie "on the down low" )
I have sent books about food allergies along to school ( as is common to share books) and the owner acts as if I'm overreacting, (but fails to give the meds he needs after he has eaten something allergic)
she did call later to see if he was ok, that was before the worse symptoms started. She opened up a bit, said thanks for the care package and did say she loves all the children and that they keep going/ her sharp.
I am afraid that sending him on Monday may be irresponsable, but don't want to be over reacting either
I need to discuss her harsh words, maybe she is just burnt out, we are killing ourselves to send him to this school and it's just been added stress and actuall danger for our little one!!!!! IF we find a new school I think we should get our money back for all this stress!!! But I don't want to switch him and have to re-adjust if it' sgoing ot be better from now on. I can handle the owner looking down on me if my son is being nurtured in the classromm and is eating safe foods only ( i provide them regularly and have treats for b-days in thier freezer)