Originally Posted by MattBronsil
Still be careful how it is approached, though. In the end, any school should be able to say, "This is how we do things and I'm sorry if you disagree with it." The school might be willing to change that rule, they might not be. I think it is important for parents to be involved in discussing these issues with the director. At the same time, the director is in the position of making sure the school stays running and that every child has their needs met. If the director feels a full day program starting at that age benefits the child in the long run, look at it that you have a disagreement of what will benefit the child and decide from there what your plan of action is. Don't look at it as the director just blew you off unless there are other reasons for it.
While I agree that the school can say "This is just how we do things" our school is always on the brink of financial crisis. Sooooo many parents have left because of this rule and that upsets me because I want our school to still be there for ds and his classmates. A tiny private school does need to keep its student's family in mind. I don't want them to bend to our every whim, but I think if there is a policy that is making a lot of families leave, it is worth reconsidering.
The director doesn't give me any reason other than "this is the Montessori way and if you want your child to have a Montessori education, this is what happens." This explanation just doesn't make sense to me because 1. I haven't found anyting by MM saying "all 4 year olds must go full day" and 2. it doesn't seem to be required at most Montessori schools and 3. I don't see how it takes into account the individual development of each child.
Many parents have decided it is just a financial decision since it makes your tution go up by 300 dollars a month, though considering how many parents have left because of this, I don't think it is making financial sense.
After the last conversation with the director, I felt like he doesn't place very much importance on the parent's role in the child's life. He doesn't see why spending the afternoon with your mother at the park might be as beneficial or more as napping at school.
I think he needs some flexibility with the 4 year olds. Some are ready, and some aren't.
I do plan to keep ds there through elementary school, but I asked him if he wanted me to just pull ds out of the school for 6-8 months till he was ready to go full days. He said that wasn't necessary.