I have no clue where exactly to post this, so I've chosen this forum. If it would be better somewhere else I would be happy to have a moderator move it. I also want advice with gentle discipline. I apologize for the length.
I have 3 sons, ages 4, 2, and 2, and am transitioning to a Waldorf-inspired environment with them. I've always followed the basics of AP, used gentle discipline, and attempted to create a natural environment.
My problem is that starting in August I will be a full-time student. I always intended to stay home with my children through their preschool years, but as a single mother (widow) I now have to either work full time (at least) or go back to school to pursue a career that will have me working full time to support my family. Since there are no local preschools I find acceptable, I'm having to hire a nanny. Thankfully we have an active local AP mothers' group which includes a lot of alternative homeschoolers (Enki, etc.), so there are nice activities for the kids. I definitely want them to be in some regular social environments with kids their ages.
My biggest problem is how to find a nanny who will be able to provide what I want for my children. I don't think I would be able to afford somebody specifically trained in Waldorf or other alternative education philosophies, although I'm certainly open to that. Does anybody have any advice for books, articles, or any other resources to provide an incoming nanny with? Both for basic daily life in a Waldorf-inspired home, and things about gentle discipline (I already have some articles from Alfie Kohn's website that I had printed out for the teachers at the preschool last year). I think as long as I find somebody intelligent and kind, and who is willing to learn, we can learn together and provide a good environment for my kids. I'm currently going through You Are Your Child's First Teacher (which I'm finding a great resource) and marking sections I'd like the nanny to read.
In the future I may be able to move to a place with more schooling options, but it will be at least 4 years from now. I am interested in one local school that starts in kindergarten, and seems like it may be a good fit for us, so I'm not sure how long-term the nanny/governess situation will be.
Thank you in advance for any advice.